Meadowbrooke Church

The Glory of Christ is the Beauty of His Church

In Genesis 1:26-27, we learn that both Adam and Eve were created in the image of God.  He created Adam and Eve as male and female, and he created them equal as image bearers of God.  When God created mankind, He declared: “‘Let Us make mankind in Our image, according to Our likeness; and let them rule over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the sky and over the livestock and over all the earth, and over every crawling thing that crawls on the earth.’ So God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them” (Gen. 1:26-27).  Listen, every time you see a human being, whether male or female, what is seen is a physical representation of the reality and presence of God.  No other creature represents God in this way except humans!  
 
When there was no suitable helper for Adam after naming the animals, we learn from Genesis 2:18-25 that God created from his rib one who was suitable for him.  God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him” (Gen. 2:18).  So, we are told that God “caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he slept” (v. 21), and from Adam’s rib, God created Eve.  Adam’s response to Eve was: “At last this is bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ because she was taken out of man” (v. 23). What follows Adam’s statement in Genesis 2:24 is what makes marriage so special and unlike any relationship that a person can have; it is also the verse the apostle Paul quotes in Ephesians 5:31, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 
 
The reason why I have chosen to continue with my plan to preach on these verses in Ephesians 5:22-33 is because of what Paul said about Genesis 2:24 in Ephesians 5:32. Listen carefully to what is written: “This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church.”  I cannot remember who wrote it, but someone said that humans are the physical representation of the reality and presence of God.  Just as it is true that we, as image bearers of the living God, are the physical representation of the reality and presence of God, it is equally true that marriage between a man and a woman is the physical representation of the reality and presence of Jesus’ church as His bride, and His great, faithful, and uncompromising love for her. 
 
What marriage represents is the reason why we are told in Holy Scripture, “Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers” (Heb. 13:4).  It is also the reason why Paul wrote that, “sexual immorality or any impurity or greed must not even be mentioned among you, as is proper among the saints; and there must be no filthiness or foolish talk, or vulgar joking, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks” (Eph. 5:3-4).  However, Paul did not stop there!  He continued with these sobering words that we all must take very seriously: “For this you know with certainty, that no sexually immoral or impure or greedy person, which amounts to an idolater, has an inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God” (v. 5).  And just in case you are tempted to view these words as archaic, outdated, or that your feelings trump the authority of such words, listen very carefully to the verse that follows Paul’s warning about the danger the sexually immoral, impure, or greedy person faces if that person does not turn from such sins: “See that no one deceives you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience” (v. 6).
 
The original title of my sermon for this Sunday was, “The Grandeur of Marriage.”  I believe God wants us to focus on the main point of Ephesians 5:22-33, and it is tucked away in verses 26-27, which states: “so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless.”  In fact, I would like to submit to you that what Ephesians 5:22-33 teaches us is this: Just as humans are the physical representation of the reality of God, so marriage between a man and a woman is the physical representation of the reality and presence of Jesus’ church as His bride.
 
In light of that, I have titled today’s sermon: “The glory of Christ is the beauty of His church.”  Instead of focusing our attention on the sins of a pastor and brother, our attention needs to be on Jesus and what He wants of us.  Now, before we begin, I do want to read for you 1 Timothy 5:19-22, which states:
“Do not accept an accusation against an elder except on the basis of two or three witnesses. Those who continue in sin, rebuke in the presence of all, so that the rest also will be fearful of sinning. I solemnly exhort you in the presence of God and of Christ Jesus and of His chosen angels, to maintain these principles without bias, doing nothing in a spirit of partiality. Do not lay hands upon anyone too quickly and thereby share responsibility for the sins of others; keep yourself free from sin.” (1 Tim. 5:19–22)
 
We did have multiple credible accusations that the one under church discipline continued to lie and deceive; even when he was brought before the Board of Elders, he continued to lie and misrepresent the truth.  Our hope is and will remain that he will repent of his sins.  Our hearts remain broken over our need and responsibility to remove him from his position as Pastor of Discipleship and Pastor. 
 
What I want to do with our time this morning is to step back and focus on our own hearts by allowing the word of God to wash over us as His people.  
 
Jesus Intends to Present His Bride as Holy and Blameless
All throughout Ephesians, we see that the reason why we have been chosen by God the Father, redeemed by Jesus the Son, and sealed by God the Holy Spirit for your holiness and blamelessness in Christ!  How will He do it?  With and through His Word!  What does His Word say?
 
The Word of God says, “He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we would be holy and blameless before Him. In love” (Eph. 1:4)
His Word says, “For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them.” (Eph. 2:10)
 
The Word says, “Be imitators of God, as beloved children; and walk in love, just as Christ also loved you and gave Himself up for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God as a fragrant aroma.” (Eph. 5:1–2)
 
The Word says, “Do not participate in the useless deeds of darkness, but instead even expose them; for it is disgraceful even to speak of the things which are done by them in secret.
 
The Word says, “‘Awake, sleeper, and arise from the dead, and Christ will shine on you.’ So then, be careful how you walk, not as unwise people but as wise...” (Eph. 5:11–15)
 
Jesus intends for His people to pursue holiness!  The only way we can pursue a Christ-centered holiness is if we flee from the sins that lead us away from Christ!  The Bible calls us to, “Flee from youthful lusts and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart” (2 Tim. 2:22).  We must, “Flee sexual immorality” (1 Cor. 6:18).  But it is not only sexual sins that we must flee from, but we must also flee from any sin that threatens to entangle us, and in case you are wondering what sins are there that do not threaten to entangle us?  The answer is that there is no safe sin, they all threaten to entangle, and they all have the ability to destroy, rob, maim, and kill!  The list of sins is long, but here is a short list given to us in Proverbs 6:16-19, “There are six things that the Lordhates, seven that are an abomination to Him: Haughty eyes, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that run rapidly to evil, a false witness who declares lies, and one who spreads strife among brothers” (Prov. 6:16–19).
 
Jesus has given to His church spiritually qualified and gifted persons for the equipping and building up of his church to teach and preach His word as one way to cleanse His people, “by the washing of water with the word...” (v. 26).  What does this mean?  In the ancient east, before the bride was presented to the bridegroom, she would receive a cleansing bath with water before she was adorned in her bridal dress and presented to her groom.  We, as the Bride of Christ, are also being cleansed, and it is done through the Word of God.  We are called to this individually, but there are men like myself that are called to administer the word of God and to show you how to bath yourself in the Word of God... because the best thing I can give you is not what Pastor Keith thinks, but what the Word of God says! I am fallible but God’s word is infallible, for: “All Scripture is inspired by God and beneficial for teaching, for rebuke, for correction, for training in righteousness; so that the man or woman of God may be fully capable, equipped for every good work.” (2 Tim. 3:16–17). 
 
This is why when a pastor, elder, or church leader fails to meet the qualifications to be in such roles as listed in 1 Timothy 3:1-7 and Titus 1:7-9, such people are a danger to Jesus’s church that He loves, cherishes, is sanctifying, and has called to His Bride, “for the equipping of the saints for the work of ministry, for the building up of the body of Christ; until we all attain to the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to a mature man, to the measure of the stature which belongs to the fullness of Christ.”  Those of us called by Jesus to serve His Bride to equip His people will, “incur a stricter judgment” (Jas. 3:1); for this reason, we are to take passages like 1 Timothy 5:19-22 seriously.
 
I am deeply grieved and heartbroken by the actions of the one under church discipline. I am crushed by the damage his actions have caused others.  My prayer is that he will take 1 John 1:9 to heart which says, “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous, so that He will forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” I also know that we are warned that what happened to our brother can happen to anyone in this room.  If a pastor can fall into unrepentant sin, then so can you, because our, “adversary, the devil, prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour” (1 Pet. 5:8); intends to bring you harm and he is really good at doing it! 
 
There are sins represented in this room such as gossip, sexual immorality, an unforgiving spirit, and more.  Some of you are so committed to your sin, that you refuse to turn from them out of a fear that you will be exposed, or you believe the enemy’s lie that you are so stuck in your sin that you are unable to turn from it. Here is what Hebrews 3:12-13 says, “Take care, brothers and sisters, that there will not be in any one of you an evil, unbelieving heart that falls away from the living God. But encourage one another every day, as long as it is still called “today,” so that none of you will be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin” (Heb. 3:12–13).
 
Our adversary is fiercely loud, but Jesus has ripped out his teeth!  You may be overwhelmed by your sin, but you still have time to run to the One who still makes all things new (2 Cor. 5:17): “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous, so that He will forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness” (1 John 1:9).
  
Jesus Will Present His Bride in All Her Glory as Holy and Blameless
How will Jesus present His Bride in all her glory as holy and blameless?  He will do it, “by the washing of water with the word” (v. 26) along with the power of His Holy Spirit (1:18-19a; 3:20-21).  God always uses the authority of His word and the power of His Spirit to do the things only He is capable of doing in our lives.  Jesus is committed to not leaving His church the way He found her.  What that means is that Philippians 1:6 is for you: “For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work among you will complete it by the day of Christ Jesus.” However, the only way you will experience the thing He wants to do in you is if you listen to His word and obey it.  So dear Christian, what are you going to do with what you heard today?  Is Jesus asking you today, “Why do you call Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ and do not do what I say” (see Luke 6:46-49)?
 
Jesus will indeed present His Bride in all her glory as holy and blameless because He loves her too much to leave her the way He found her!  What will her wedding day be like?  It will be greater than any marriage you hope for or have dreamed to experience.  In Revelation 19:7-10, we are given a small peek through the curtain of eternity, and this is what we see:
Let’s rejoice and be glad and give the glory to Him, because the marriage of the Lamb has come, and His bride has prepared herself.” It was given to her to clothe herself in fine linen, bright and clean; for the fine linen is the righteous acts of the saints. Then he said to me, “Write: ‘Blessed are those who are invited to the wedding feast of the Lamb.’” And he said to me, “These are the true words of God.” Then I fell at his feet to worship him. But he said to me, “Do not do that; I am a fellow servant of yours and your brothers and sisters who hold the testimony of Jesus; worship God! For the testimony of Jesus is the spirit of prophecy.”
 
This is why Jesus takes the sins within and by those who belong to His church very seriously.  It is the same seriousness we see demonstrated in the way the sin of Achan was addressed (Josh. 7:1-26), the sins of Eli and his two worthless sons (1 Sam. 2:12-36), and the sins of David with Bathsheba (2 Sam. 11:1-12:23).  It is against the backdrop of the above examples I want you to consider as the most appropriate way I feel I can conclude my sermon:
 
Therefore leaving the elementary teaching about the Christ, let us press on to maturity, not laying again a foundation of repentance from dead works and of faith toward God, of instruction about washings and laying on of hands, and about the resurrection of the dead and eternal judgment. And this we will do, if God permits. For it is impossible, in the case of those who have once been enlightened and have tasted of the heavenly gift and have been made partakers of the Holy Spirit, and have tasted the good word of God and the powers of the age to come, and then have fallen away, to restore them again to repentance, since they again crucify to themselves the Son of God and put Him to open shame. (Heb. 6:1–6)
 
For if we go on sinning willfully after receiving the knowledge of the truth, there no longer remains a sacrifice for sins, but a terrifying expectation of judgment and the fury of a fire which will consume the adversaries. Anyone who has ignored the Law of Moses is put to death without mercy on the testimony of two or three witnesses. How much more severe punishment do you think he will deserve who has trampled underfoot the Son of God, and has regarded as unclean the blood of the covenant by which he was sanctified, and has insulted the Spirit of grace? For we know Him who said, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay.” And again, “The Lord will judge His people.” It is a terrifying thing to fall into the hands of the living God. (Hebrews 10:26–31)
 
Therefore, since we also have such a great cloud of witnesses surrounding us, let’s rid ourselves of every obstacle and the sin which so easily entangles us, and let’s run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking only at Jesus, the originator and perfecter of the faith, who for the joy set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. (Heb. 12:1–2)

The Magnificence of Marriage

I heard a well-meaning pastor and theologian say by way of application from his reading of Ephesians 5:22-25 these words: “Godly women want to feed their men. Godly women are designed to make the sandwiches. This is not an absolute law, like the one about making babies, and there are times when a man fends for himself and makes quite a decent sandwich. But in the general scheme of things, the apostle Paul wants the women to make the sandwiches.”[1]  My question to you, is that what Ephesians 5:22-25 is teaching? 
 
So, here is how I hope to answer that question.  I hope to answer the above question by showing you how the willful subjecting of the wife to her husband and the sacrificial love of the husband for his wife is the apostle Paul’s way of showing us what Ephesians 4:1-3 looks like in marriage; consider these verses in light of marriage: “...walk in a manner worthy of the calling with which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, being diligent to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.”
 
The way I am going to show you what sandwiches have to do with marriage is by explaining what Ephesians 5:22-25 is saying, then I will show what these verses mean for your marriage, and finally, we will look at some examples of Jesus and what He thinks about sandwich making. 
 
What is Ephesians 5:22-25 Really Saying?
So what is Ephesians saying?  Let me begin answering that question by unpacking what the Greek word hypotassō(ὑποτάσσω) means; it can be translated as subject, subordinate, or submit.  Although every major translation except the NASB (95 and 2020 editions) decided to use the word “submit” instead of “subject” I believe “subject” is a better translation.  So what is the big deal?  Why do I think it matters how hypotassō is translated?  In the most literal sense, the word means “to order oneself under” and in the case of the wife, she is to willingly order herself under the headship of her husband, which is much less confusing than “submit” and leaves less room for this verse to be abused in the ways it has been used in an attempt to subjugate Christian women.  This is why I believe “subject” is a better way to translate this word, besides the fact that most of the time the word is used in the New Testament, it is rightfully translated as “subject.”
 
Permit me to show you two other places hypotassō is used and why “subject” is a better translation of the word for Ephesians in the way wives ought to respond to their husbands.  The first is Luke 2:41-52 when Mary and Joseph traveled from Nazareth to Jerusalem with 12-year-old Jesus to celebrate the Passover.  Because they most likely traveled with friends and family, they did not realize they left Jesus in Jerusalem on their way back home to Nazareth.  So, Joseph and Mary turned back (probably in a panic) to go get 12-year-old Jesus and it is in Luke 2:48-51 that we see how hypotassō is used and translated:
When Joseph and Mary saw Him, they were bewildered; and His mother said to Him, “Son, why have You treated us this way? Behold, Your father and I have been anxiously looking for You!” And He said to them, “Why is it that you were looking for Me? Did you not know that I had to be in My Father’s house?” And yet they on their part did not understand the statement which He had made to them. And He went down with them and came to Nazareth, and He continued to be subject [hypotassō] to them; and His mother treasured all these things in her heart.
 
What did Jesus do at the age of 12 as fully God and fully human?  How did he respond to his mother and stepfather as the rightful King of kings and Lord of lords?  He willingly placed Himself under the headship of his mother and stepfather as a 12-year-old boy.  Jesus was in Jerusalem because He had to be in His “Father’s house” but returned to Nazareth with Joseph and Mary because He was still under their headship. 
 
The other place the word is used is in Romans 13:1. Remember that the Empire of Rome wanted to suppress Christianity, and it was because of Paul’s preaching that Rome eventually sentenced him to death by beheading, yet Paul wrote, “Every person is to be subject [hypotassō] to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those which exist are established by God.”  Paul willingly subjected himself under the Roman government but refused to disobey God when Romans demanded him to do so. 
 
With the same humility that led Jesus to subject Himself under the authority of Joseph and Mary, the wife is to subject herself under the headship of her husband.  With the same understanding and trust Paul had of God and in His sovereign reign over governments the wife is called to subject herself to her husband knowing that he will have to answer for every decision made in the home and will be held to account for how he loved his wife who is first and foremost a daughter of God Almighty. 
 
Now, what is the scope that the wife is to subject herself under the headship of her husband?  Look at verse 24, for it here that we are told: “But the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything.”  Paul is not saying that you, wives, must be submissive in everything your husband tells you to do but to subject yourself under his headship as the one God has called to lead as one called by God to protect and provide as priest over your home out of a motivation to lay down his life for your good out of the kind of love that led Jesus to a cross: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her” (v. 25). 
 
What Does Ephesians 5:22-25 Mean for Life and Marriage?
So, what does Ephesians 5:22-25 mean for your marriage?  What it means, is that, unlike the world’s perverted view of sex and marriage, you are to walk in a manner worthy of your calling in your marriage, as a parent or as a child (6:1-4), and in your obedience to those placed in authority over you, who you work for, or how you exercise your God-given authority (6:5-9).
 
Think about what we have seen in Ephesians 4:1-5:21 as the application of who you are as one who once was dead but now is alive in Christ.  You were redeemed and saved to walk in the good works Jesus redeemed us for (Eph. 2:10).  As a child of God and His representation in a dark and evil world, you are to “walk in a manner worthy of the calling with which you have been called...” (4:1).  In light of your calling as a child of light, we are commanded to be, “imitators of God, as beloved children” and as beloved children, we are to “walk in love, just as Christ also loved you and gave Himself up for us” (5:1-2).  Now in everything that we say and do, we are to, “be careful how you walk, not as unwise people but as wise, making the most of your time because the days are evil” (vv. 15-16).  So, when it comes to what we say and how we treat one another as brothers and sisters in Christ regardless of whether you are single, married, employed, a student and living at home with mom and dad, caring for your elderly parents, we are commanded by God through the apostle Paul to, “subject yourselves to one another in the fear of Christ” (v. 21). 
 
But what does Christlikeness look like in marriage and what does Ephesians 5:22-25 have to do with making sandwiches?  Here is the way I see it: With the same humility Christ demonstrated and we are all called to practice (see Phil. 2:3-8), wives are to subject themselves to their husbands with the same humility Jesus demonstrated on earth during His incarnation as fully human while remaining fully God.  With the same selfless love that compelled Jesus to live the life we could never live and die the death we all deserved; husbands have and demonstrate for their wives.  With the same honor and dependence Jesus demonstrated on earth regarding God the Father, so believing Children are to honor their parents.  And, with the same willingness to subject Himself under the cross imposed by the Roman empire, so Christian slaves and employees are to obediently bear the burden they are called to with the same dedication Christ had not to Rome, but for the glory of God the Father.  As a wife, or as a husband, or as a child, or as a parent, or as a boss, or as a slave/employee... we are all commanded out of love and reverent fear for Christ to, “walk in a manner worthy of the calling with which you have been called” (4:1), and to do so as “imitators of God, as beloved children, just as Christ also loved you and gave Himself up for us” (5:1-2). 
 
What Does Jesus Say about Who Should be Making the Sandwiches in Life and Marriage?
Now, a word about who Paul expected to make sandwiches when he wrote Ephesians.  The motivation of subjecting yourself under the headship of your husband is not because you are obligated to submit to whatever he wants, but because of a motivation for your love for Jesus.  This is the point of verse 22 and Colossians 3:18, which states: “Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.”  Then, just a few verses later, we read: “Whatever you do, do your work heartily, as for the Lord and not for people, knowing that it is from the Lord that you will receive the reward of the inheritance” (Col. 3:20-21). Just because you are married does not mean that you are now a slave; if you are a follower of Christ who happens to be a wife or thinking about marriage, it is out of a radical love and deep reverence for Christ that in wanting to glorify Him in all that you do and knowing that He loves you infinitely more than any man on earth can... that you are willing to subject yourself to under the headship of your husband because of God’s design for marriage.
 
Now, a word to the men of Meadowbrooke: Consider the ways Jesus demonstrated His love for His Church during His incarnation.  We do not have the time to look at every example, but I do want you to consider some of them that we discover by reading the four gospels:
Well, for starters, Despite the cold shoulder Jesus received from the people He came to die for, His love compelled Him to persistently pursue them; how are you to love your wife? Be an imitator of God who is mindful of the great love and rich mercy you received because of God’s amazing grace, and walk in love before your wife and children, “just as Christ also loved you and gave Himself up for us” (5:1-2).
 
Jesus demonstrated His love for His Bride even when she said and did things that frustrated Him (see Matt. 16:5-12 as an example).
 
Jesus grieved with His Bride when she suffered loss (see John 11:1-44).
 
Jesus loved His Bride when He washed the feet of His disciples in the upper room (John 13:5-20)
 
Jesus loved His Bride even while she could not stay awake during His hour of need and still prayed for her wellbeing (Luke 22:39-46; John 17).
 
Jesus loved His Bride even when She denied She knew Him (John 18:25-27).
 
Jesus loved His Bride even though he was abused emotionally and physically because of His love for Her (John 18:12-24, 28-19:15).
 
Jesus loved His Bride even to the point of carrying a cross She deserved for the purpose of dying a death He did not deserve on her behalf (John 19:16-30).
 
So, men of Meadowbrooke Church, if you love your wives in the same way Christ loved His bride, are you really going to demand that she make you a sandwich?  I do not believe for one second that Paul expected the wife to make the sandwiches!  I believe the point he was making is that if the wife and husband are walking with Jesus out of a reverence and love for Him, their marriage will be stronger for it.  She will subject herself under his headship in humility out of her reverence and love for Jesus, and he will want to love his wife deeply and sacrificially because of his deep love and reverence for Jesus. 
 
Here is why I believe Paul had in mind that both the wife and the husband would make the sandwiches.  Between the two, the kind of love that leads them to one another begins with Philia (friendship love) which has grown into an unconditional agape (unconditional love), and the fruit of that philia and agape love is eros (erotic/physical love).  The fruit of a Christ-centered marriage should be the kind of love described in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7,
Love is patient, love is kind, it is not jealous; love does not brag, it is not arrogant. It does not act disgracefully, it does not seek its own benefit; it is not provoked, does not keep an account of a wrong suffered, it does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; it keeps every confidence, it believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails; but if there are gifts of prophecy, they will be done away with; if there are tongues, they will cease; if there is knowledge, it will be done away with.
 
The other reason why I reject the ridiculous notion that Paul wants the wife to make the sandwiches is because of 1 Corinthians 7:1-5 in a relationship the fruit of a genuine friendship (philia) and unconditional love (agape) is physical and erotic love (eros).  Listen to these verses carefully and you tell me if the woman is the only one called to make a sandwich?
Now concerning the things about which you wrote, it is good for a man not to touch a woman. But because of sexual immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband. The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise the wife also to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise the husband also does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
 
Men and women, what if we took Ephesians 5:1-2 seriously regarding everything in life that is important?  What if we applied Ephesians 5:21 in our marriages, parenting, place of employment, and in our churches?  What if we looked at our spouse out of a motivation of Christ-like humility and love not out of selfishness, but a giving of oneself to the other and applied that humility and love to sandwich making, dirty dishes, diapers, to-do lists, walks, dates, and even the marriage bed? 
 
The top five reasons why marriages end in divorce are as follows: 1) Too much conflict, 2) a lack of commitment, 3) infidelity, 4) a lack of physical intimacy, and 5) communication problems.  If we take Ephesians 5 seriously, I believe a Christ-centered humility from the wife and a Christ-compelled love from the husband will do five things for your marriage:
 
Christ-centered humility and love will reduce the kind of pride that leads to conflict.
 
Christ-centered humility and love open your eyes to the value of your spouse and marriage.
 
Christ-centered humility and love will help prevent your eyes from wandering and compel you to fight against sexual sin.
 
Christ-centered humility and love will free both the wife and the husband to give themselves sexually to the other for the good and pleasure of the other more frequently.
 
Finally, Christ-centered humility and love will significantly reduce your communication problems because humility and love do wonders for marital hearing loss.
 
[1] Doug Wilson, The Natural Use of the Woman (YouTube Channel: Blog & Mablog; Jan. 24, 2022)

The Marvel of Marriage

 
If there were ever a sentence in the Bible to serve as a trigger for anger, resentment, and resistance towards the Bible it is most likely Ephesians 5:22, “Wives, subject yourselves to your own husbands, as to the Lord.”  The reason some women bristle at verses like Ephesians 5:22-24 is because they have not known the kind of love husbands are called to demonstrate in verse 25, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her...”
 
Before we can even begin to address these verses, I need you to hear something.  Marriage is an institution created by God to be celebrated, enjoyed, protected, and fought for within the covenant relationship between God and one man and one woman for a lifetime.  However, if marriage (as God’s good gift) is something that you have made into the ultimate thing for your life, then you have potentially done two things:
You have set your bar way too low.
You have made an idol out of the institution of marriage.
 
When it comes to marriage, how can you set the bar way too low by making it the ultimate thing you aspire to?  By making marriage the ultimate thing, you miss its ultimate purpose in that it serves as the only institution on earth designed to reflect Christ’s relationship with the Church and the Church’s relationship with Christ (v. 32).  What is marriage?  It is a “great mystery” because it is, “an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one” (v. 32; NLT).  In fact, in reference to the mystery of marriage, the ESV, NIV, and CSB translate the Greek word megas (μέγας) as “profound” while the KJV, NASB, and NLT use the word “great.”  The word can also be translated: large, surprising, or prominent.  What is the point?  Marriage is a big deal for reasons much more significant than two humans who want to spend a lifetime together. 
 
When you read what is written in Ephesians 5 concerning marriage, you must read and study these verses within the context of everything written in Ephesians 1:1 - 5:21.  Let me help you understand Ephesians 5:22-33 in light of the overall context of the epistle: 
 
In Ephesians 1:1-19, the Christian was chosen before the foundation of the world to be redeemed and forgiven of all sin exclusively through the shed blood of Jesus upon a cross. If you are a Christian, at the moment you believed in Jesus, you were sealed by the Holy Spirit for the purpose of becoming holy and blameless as God’s treasured possession to the praise of His glory, so that Jesus, who is Lord over everything (vv. 19b-21), would be head over all things to the church (v. 22-23). 
 
In Christ, those who were dead in their sins are made alive according to Ephesians 2:1-10 because of the rich mercy, great love, and sufficient grace of God. The reason why you, Christian, were made alive... is to live out your calling as God’s, “workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them” (2:1-10). 
 
Now that you are alive with Christ, you are a citizen “with the saints, and are of God’s household, having been built on the foundation of the apostles and prophets, Christ Jesus Himself being the cornerstone, in whom the whole building, being fitted together, is growing into a holy temple in the Lord...” (2:19-21). Because you are in Jesus, you now have a new identity, and as His redeemed people, we all can, “know the love of Christ which surpasses knowledge” as His Church (3:14-19).
 
As those who were once far off but have been brought near as Jesus’ redeemed people, we are to be known for walking a better way as followers of Jesus, indeed, we are to “walk in a manner worthy of the calling with which you have been called...” (4:1). We do this, “with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, being diligent to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace” (vv. 2-3).
 
As the Church of Jesus Christ, we are His holy Bride and no longer characterized by the “useless deeds of darkness” (5:3-13) but are now “children of light” (5:8-9) who walk with wisdom while the days are evil (vv. 15-16). We do this as the “holy temple of the Spirit of God” and “body of Christ”, who will experience a marriage as His beloved Bride. Now, as those who belong to Christ, we are to diligently keep, “the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace” since we belong to each other as, “one body and one Spirit, just as you also were called in one hope of your calling; one Lord, one faith, one baptism, one God and Father of all who is over all and through all and in all” (4:4-6).
 
If you are a Christian, then you are the Bride of Christ, and as the Bride of Christ, we come to what I consider to be the “hermeneutical key” for understanding what Paul states in the verses to follow regarding marriage, children, and work.  Here it is: “subject yourselves to one another in the fear of Christ” (v. 21). 
 
God’s Intended Culture for Marriage
It is important to point out that what proceeds what Paul says to wives and husbands is one long sentence in verses 18-21 that begins with an imperative: “do not get drunk with wine, in which there is debauchery, but be filled with the Spirit...”  So, the culture of a healthy marriage begins by being filled with the Holy Spirit instead of filling yourself with something that leads to debauchery.  The way to do that is provided in a list of four participles: 1) Speaking to one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, 2) singing and making melody with your hearts to the Lord, 3) always giving thanks for all things in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ to our God and Father, and 4) subject yourselves to one another in the fear of Christ.
 
If you are wondering what Ephesians 5:19-21 looks like in the home, the point is not the songs you sing to one another, but what it is that moves you and motivates you as a wife or as a husband.  What Paul wrote in Ephesians 5:19-20 is not all that different than what he wrote to the Colossians: “Let the word of Christ richly dwell within you, with all wisdom teaching and admonishing one another with psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs, singing with thankfulness in your hearts to God. Whatever you do in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through Him to God the Father” (3:16-17).
 
To “subject yourselves to one another in the fear of Christ” is to do all things, both in word and deed, in the name of the Lord Jesus.  The Greek word for “subject” is hypotassō (ὑποτάσσω) and it literally means to “put oneself under” another; here we are to humble ourselves in this way out of a reverence for Jesus.  In the case of Ephesians 5:21, we Christians are to mutually subject/submit to one another out of a humility that is empowered by the Holy Spirit which is best experienced as you are filled by the Holy Spirit.  The best way I can help you understand what Paul is communicating here is to see it against the backdrop of Philippians 2:3-8,
Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility consider one another as more important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others. Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus, who, as He already existed in the form of God, did not consider equality with God something to be grasped, but emptied Himself by taking the form of a bond-servant and being born in the likeness of men. And being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death: death on a cross.
 
Jesus, while equal to the Father, when He took on flesh during His incarnation, humbled Himself by taking the form of a bondservant.  What Jesus did, is that He subjected Himself under the authority of the Father to accomplish what was necessary for our redemption.  We are told that we must have the same mindset of Jesus in the way we treat one another.  Never was Jesus less than God, but He did willingly place Himself under the headship of the Father while He remained fully God and at the same time fully human.  We are to humble ourselves in the same way as brothers and sisters in a world where individualism and power struggles are part of the dog-eat-dog culture of the world that we live in.    
 
So, against the backdrop of Philippians 2:3-8, consider again Ephesians 5:21, “subject yourselves to one another in the fear of Christ” (v. 21).  Do you see it?  Do you see why this verse serves as a type of linchpin that joins what we read in verses 15-20 and the section in Ephesians that addresses husbands, wives, children, and slaves? 
 
How are Wives to “Subject” Themselves to Their Husbands?
So now we come to the word “subject” and the way it is used for how wives must respond to their husbands and how it is not used to instruct the way husbands are to respond to their wives. We will look more deeply at the husband-and-wife relationship as it is explained in these verses next week, but for now I want to set things up for next week in a way that still helps you today.
 
Within the covenant of marriage, a wife is to, “subject” herself to her husband, “as to the Lord” (v. 22).  The husband is not commanded to do the same regarding his wife.  Instead, he is commanded to love his wife “just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her” (v. 25).  Sinclair Ferguson states in light of Ephesians 5:21-22, there is, of course, an appropriate mutual submission in marriage.  The exhortation of 5:21 is to be obeyed by all Christians within the context of their mutual fellowship! But that is not the only aspect to the Christian life.  Mutual submission no more obliterates the command in 5:22 than it rescinds the command of Hebrews 13:7 ‘Obey your leaders’!”[1]
 
When it comes to marriage, the God who invented marriage offers a better way than the perversion of marriage propagated by the world.  Indeed, marriage was always intended to express, demonstrate, and point to a greater marriage that every Christian was chosen, redeemed, and sealed by the Holy Spirit to experience regardless of your marital status on planet earth (more on this in two weeks)!  The better way for the Christian woman, who happens to be a wife, is to illustrate how Christians (the Church) respond to the great love of Christ that compelled Him to willingly go to the cross to redeem her; the response of Jesus’ wife is to be that of joyful submission.  In a world that balks at any notion that a married woman must subject/submit to her husband; the Christian is called to a better way.
 
Listen, just as our response to Jesus should be one of deep and joyful submission to Him because of the love we have experienced from Him, the wife is to joyfully place herself under the loving headship of her husband in response to his self-sacrificing love, care, and protection for his bride. The command for wives to subject themselves to their husbands has nothing to do with value or importance, but God’s design for marriage and the kind of thriving, joy, and companionship He intends His people to enjoy within the covenant of marriage that He instituted.
 
What does it mean to “subject” yourself to your husband, as to the Lord?  Well, it certainly does not mean that you become his doormat so that he can treat you however he wants.  There is only One Lord, and that Lord is Jesus Christ.  There is a chain of command, and your first obligation is to obey Jesus as your Lord. 
 
The reason why I believe the NASB offers a better translation of hypotassō (subject) is because the wife is not commanded to enter subjugation under her husband as an inferior person to a superior human.  When a woman enters marriage, she does so as a different but equal counterpart to the man she loves.  The wife willingly and humbly places herself under her husband’s headship out of a deep trust and respect for him in response to the selfless love she has experienced and rightfully anticipates she will continue to enjoy throughout a lifetime of marriage when they come together as a one-flesh union.  Again, Sinclair Ferguson’s perspective on Ephesians 5:22-24 is very much appreciated: “Marriage is not a recipe for the subjugation of a woman, but a blueprint for her true freedom in a healthy, loving relationship with her husband.”[2]  Richard Coekin, in his little commentary on Ephesians, states:
As he [God] committed himself sacrificially to us in covenanted and exclusive love, so the most precious aspect of all our human relationships, and especially marriage, is to love and be loved, not merely with sentimental affection or sensual desire, but with sustained sacrificial kindness in every season of life—an unconditional love based not upon the other’s glamorous looks, but upon a commitment to be exclusively devoted to their best interests.  And what a stunningly wonderful blessing a happy Christian marriage is![3]
 
However, for some of you, your marriage seems anything but a “wonderful blessing.” Others of you are afraid of entering into marriage because of what you witnessed growing up.  The sad truth is that even in the Church, men and women have bought into the lie of a version of marriage that does not reflect what we read in the Bible. You need to hear that when it comes to marriage or any other relationship for that matter, God offers a better way.  Nevertheless, to experience that better way, it takes two who desire to walk in a manner worthy of their calling as followers of Jesus for God’s design for marriage to be experienced on some level.  In the weeks to come, I hope to offer you some level of help and encouragement for your marriage and your desire to follow Jesus well.
 
Before I conclude, permit me to address the woman and then the men of this church. 
 
To the women in this church: You are created in the image of God and there is no man whose love is greater for you than the one your heavenly Father has for you.  Any abuse you suffered growing up, the careless words spoken by any of the men in your life, or any treatment of you that has reduced you to an object is NOT a reflection of God’s love for you.  You are valued because God has placed value upon you as His daughter!  There is no marriage or situation where it is acceptable or okay for you to be abused or mistreated as a daughter of the God who loved you so much that He sent His only Son to die to redeem you. If you are in a marriage that seems more of a misery than the beautiful marvel it is intended to be, I want to encourage you to hang on and trust that the God who raises the dead can bring life to your marriage.  If you are in what you believe to be a dead or failing marriage, I would like to give you an assignment this week: Pray for your husband, that the God who created out of nothing, can do something with the man in your marriage.
 
To the men in this church: Everything I said to the women also applies to you.  It is possible to be in a relationship where you are demeaned, demonized, and devalued by the women in your life (more on that next week).  It is not okay for you to be treated poorly or talked down to or disrespected by your wife or children. I will say though, that we men tend to set the culture and spiritual climate of our homes; if you have not done a good job at doing that, it is not too late.  Permit me to give you an assignment this week, read John 13:1 - 19:30 and take note on what Ephesians 5:25 really means for your marriage: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her.”  Especially take note of what you can do differently or better to obey what is commanded of you as the husband of your wife. 
 
Finally, the God who raised Jesus from the grave cares more about your marriage than you ever could, so trust and believe that He can make something beautiful out of your mess.  It is on this point that I leave you with Ephesians 3:20-21, “Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly beyond all that we ask or think, according to the power that works within us, to Him be the glory in the church and in Christ Jesus to all generations forever and ever. Amen.”
 
[1] Sinclair B. Ferguson, Let’s Study: Ephesians (Carlisle, PA: The Banner of Truth Trust; 2021), 149.
[2] Ibid., 151.
[3] Richard Coekin, Ephesians for You (The Good Book Company; 2019), 164-65.

The Walk of the Wise (part 2)

From the Pulpit of Keith Miller
Meadowbrooke Church
August 25, 2024
 
 
The Walk of the Wise (part 2)
Ephesians 5:14-21
 
Introduction:
The definition of apathy is, “a lack of interest, enthusiasm, or concern.  Atrophy is the gradual decline in effectiveness or vigor due to underuse or neglect.  I said last week that spiritual apathy is the kind of thing that will happen when you are so paralyzed by shame that you stay in your shame instead of allowing it to motivate you into repentance.  Spiritual apathy, if left untreated, will lead to spiritual atrophy.  In Ephesians 5:14-21, we are given a four-fold pathway to keep us from spiritual apathy and to rescue us from spiritual atrophy; last week, I showed the first step for that pathway, and it was: “Run to Jesus as your only advocate.” 
 
If you are a Christian, you were once dead and now you are alive in Christ (Eph. 2:1-5).  If you are a Christian, you are alive with Jesus through the redemption of His shed blood (1:7).  You, Christian, are, forgiven of all your sin, but you have also been, “sealed in Him with the Holy Spirit.... for the day of redemption” (1:13-14; 4:30).  Because of God’s great love, rich mercy, and sufficient grace, you are His child and even more staggering (in my opinion), you are His inheritance (see 1:18-19a)!  Because of all of this, your awareness of your sin ought not lead to apathy, but to the place and time where your redemption was made possible which is the cross of Christ! 
 
With that being said, I believe Ephesians 5:15-21 is a pathway and plan to keep us from spiritual apathy and if necessary, to lead one out of spiritual atrophy. 
 
Pay Attention to How You Live (v. 15)
In consideration of that reality and hope that is yours in Jesus, the apostle Paul continues: “So then, be careful how you walk, not as unwise people but as wise...” (v. 15).  In light of verses 1-14, Paul does not suggest we take care how we walk, but commands it out of the utmost importance.  “be careful” is translated from Greek word “blepō” (βλέπω) and it literally means and is most commonly translated, “see” but it can also be translated in the following ways: “beware”, “watch out”, or “look.”  Verse 15 is an appeal to pay attention because there are dangers along the way as you “Walk.”  A better translation of this verse is: “Watch carefully how you walk, not as unwise people, but as wise...”
 
Consider the seven ways the word “walk” is used in Ephesians.  In Ephesians 2:1-3, the Christian once, “previouslywalked according to the course of this world, according to the prince of the power of the air, of the spirit that is now working in the sons of disobedience.”  If you are a Christian, you are God’s, “workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them (2:10).  Because of the great price of your redemption, you are to “walk in a manner worthy of the calling with which you have been called” (4:1) instead of walking “as the Gentiles also walk... because of the hardness of their heart” (4:17-18).  As children of God, you are to “walk in love just as Christ loved you and gave Himself up for us” (5:1-2).  You, Christian, are alive with Christ, and because you are alive with Christ, you are “light in the Lord” and no longer in darkness; therefore “walk as children of light” (5:8).  This brings us to the final verse where the word “walk” is used in Ephesians: “So then, be careful [watch carefully] how you walk, not as unwise people but as wise” (v. 15).
 
To watch carefully how you walk is to do so with urgency, care, and wisdom.  So how does one walk with wisdom?  Proverbs 9:10 tells us what the first step towards wisdom requires: “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.”  According to proverbs, wisdom begins with a fear of the Lord.  To have some understanding of who God is will result in an appropriate response to Him, and that appropriate response is one of profound reverence, for this is what the Hebrew word for “fear”[1] means.  This is the response of the Seraphim and the prophet of Isaiah while in the presence of Almighty God, “sitting on a throne, lofty and exalted...” while the holy Seraphim covered their face and feet, Isaiah responded: “Woe to me, for I am ruined! Because I am a man of unclean lips” (see Isa. 6:1-5).  It was also the response of Job to a better understanding of the nature of God in light of his own suffering: “I have heard of You by the hearing of the ear; But now my eye sees You; Therefore I retract, And I repent, sitting on dust and ashes” (Job 42:5-6).  Jesus spoke of wisdom in relationship to what we do with His words and our lives:
“Therefore, everyone who hears these words of Mine, and acts on them, will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock. And the rain fell and the floods came, and the winds blew and slammed against that house; and yet it did not fall, for it had been founded on the rock. And everyone who hears these words of Mine, and does not act on them, will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand. And the rain fell and the floods came, and the winds blew and slammed against that house; and it fell—and its collapse was great.” (Matt. 7:24-27)
 
To walk with wisdom is to do so with an appropriate fear for who God is and a motivation to do what His Word requires is the spirit of Psalm 1:1-2, “How blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked, nor stand in the path of sinners, nor sit in the seat of scoffers! But his delight is in the law of the Lord, And in His law he meditates day and night.”
 
In the verses to follow, Paul provides us with key ways to walk in wisdom: 1) Use your time wisely for what matters, 2) live with an awareness of God’s will for your life, and 3) be intentional about what you consume.
 
Use your time wisely for what matters (v. 16)
Life is short.  The average human life is about 29,000 days.  That is all you have... maybe.  That is of course if heart disease, cancer, or a fatal accident doesn’t get to you first.  Of our 29,000 days, we sleep 9,490 (26yrs) of our 29,000 days away leaving us with only 19,510 days on earth awake.  So, how does the average person use his/her average number of days on earth? 
1,095 days are spent in the bathroom
402 days are spent getting dressed
365 days are spent looking for things we lost.
5 hours a day are spent by the average teen staring at the screen of their computer, phone, and television (that is over 3,100 hours a year spent staring at a screen)
5 days a year are spent on our cell phones (if those statistics remain the same, then within my 14-year-old son’s lifetime he will have spent 4,516 days of his life on his phone).
 
Allow me to put something in perspective.  The average age of Meadowbrooke Church is somewhere in the 30’s, which means that if you are 35 years old and if you average about 6.5 hours of sleep a night, and heart disease, cancer, or an accident does not cut those remaining days short, you have about 12,960 days awake left while the average screen time in America is currently 7.3 hours a day which is another 3,942 days of no human interaction that you can scratch off of those remaining 12,960 days left awake and living.   
 
My point is simply this, your time is very limited, so don’t waste it on things that do not matter.  The apostle Paul wrote Ephesians 5:16 in a day and age when social media and screen time did not exist, but the danger of wasting one’s life on things that do not matter was still before the Christian.  The evil that surrounded the Ephesian Church is the same evil that surrounds us but with different dress.  Ephesus had the Temple of Artemis and we have the porn industry.  The Hebrews were surrounded by the worship of Molech where infants were laid upon the arms of the idol as a sacrifice, we have Planned Parenthood offering free vasectomies and abortions in their buss outside of the DNC in Chicago and a well-known gourmet hotdog place offering patrons a free hotdog after their procedures on that bus. 
 
How do you keep your soul from spiritual apathy and atrophy?  How do we make the most of our time because the days are evil?  You do it by taking God-glorifying risks and by making God-exulting sacrifices for what really matters in light of eternity!
 
Live with an awareness of God’s will for your life (v. 17)
Living in a way that is worthy of your calling and walking wisely as a follower of Jesus while the days are evil requires that you are aware of God’s will for your life and that you live in light of that awareness.  So, what is God’s will for your life?  It’s simple.  We in Ephesians alone we are told that God chose you before the foundation of the world, “that we would be holy and blameless before Him” (1:4).  You were created, saved, and redeemed in Christ Jesus, “for good works, which God prepared beforehand” (2:10).  Now that you are saved by the blood of Jesus, “you are no longer strangers and foreigners, but you are fellow citizens with the saints, and are of God’s household... being fitted together... into a holy temple in the Lord” (2:19, 21).  Because we now belong to Jesus as the Church, “we are no longer to be children, tossed here and there by waves and carried about by every wind of doctrine, by the trickery of people” (4:14).  As followers of Jesus, we are expected, “to put on the new self, which in the likeness of God has been created in righteousness and holiness of the truth” (4:24).  Because you are now a child of God, we are to be “imitators of God, as beloved children” (5:1) because we are now “children of light” (v. 8). 
 
What is the will of God for your life?  It is to follow Jesus in such a way that He is first and everything else is second for it is He who said: “If anyone wishes to come after Me, he must deny himself, and take up his cross daily and follow Me” (Luke 9:23).  What is the will for your life?  It is your sanctification: “For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor” (1 Thess. 4:3-4).  What is the will of God for your life?  Here it is: “Therefore, prepare your minds for action, keep sober in spirit, fix your hope completely on the grace to be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ. As obedient children, do not be conformed to the former lusts which were yours in your ignorance, but like the Holy One who called you, be holy yourselves also in all your behavior; because it is written, ‘You shall be holy, for I am holy’” (1 Pet. 1:13-16).
 
Listen, any person, organization, job promotion, or desire that threatens to move you further away from God’s will for your life... IS NOT GOD’S WILL for your life!  If you want to walk in wisdom, you must live with the awareness of what God wants for your life ultimately.     
 
Be intentional about what you consume into your mind, soul, and heart (vv. 18-21)
The word worship comes from the word “worth-ship.”  What you give yourself to is what you value, and what you value most is what you ultimately attribute worth to.  What you put into your mind, you put into your heart, and what you put into your heart, you feed into your soul. 
 
Early in this series on Ephesians I said, that “you have all of God’s love you will ever need, all of the redemption in Jesus that you will ever need, and all of the Holy Spirit you will ever need.”  I followed up that statement with a question, and the question was this: “How much of your heart does God have? How much of your loyalty does Jesus have? How much of your life does the Holy Spirit have?  You see, when you believed in Jesus, you were baptized and sealed by the Holy Spirit, but the filling of the Holy Spirit comes when He has more of your heart. 
 
What Paul describes in verses 18-21 has more to do with the culture of your heart than anything else.  Anything that you put into your mind will ultimately affect the way you think, and what saturates your mind, will affect what and how you feel about certain things.  This is why Paul begins verse 18 with a prohibition: “And do not get drunk with wine...”  The point is simply this: Do not fill your stomach with something that will dull your senses, but fill your mind, soul, and heart with the God you were made to know!  R.C. Sproul wrote of this verse: “Paul is saying to drink deeply and constantly, keeping ourselves close to the Spirit of God, so that we maximize the means of grace of His presence and of His power in our lives.”[2]
 
Getting drunk with wine is debauchery.  What is debauchery?  It is having no control because the wine you have consumed has inhibited you from exercising good reason.  It is not just alcohol that can have this effect on your mind, heart, and soul.  If Paul was writing a letter to Meadowbrooke, I think it would include a sentence not all that dissimilar from Ephesians 5:18; maybe it would sound something like this: “Do not bow to your phones to be consumed by your screentime but be saturated by the word of God for the good of your mind, heart, and soul!” 
 
Think about it, how can you expect to experience the power of the Holy Spirit in your life if what is filling your mind is ultimately coming through a screen rather than the lenses of Holy Scripture?  How do you do this?  You do it by consuming God’s Word, you do it by “speaking to one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs...” (v. 19), which happens when we gather for worship.  If you are consumed by the things of God, you will recognize that all the good that you have is from God (v. 20).  When you recognize that your life and all that you have belongs to God, you will submit to the authority of God over your life and to, “one another in the fear of Christ” (v. 21).  
 
The Spirit-filled life is a life governed by the Holy Spirit, and the only way you will be governed by the Holy Spirit is by pursuing the following three things:
 
Pursue God by seeking to know Him. Your understanding of who God is will create an appropriate response to Him, which is a deep and abiding reverence for Him and the things and life He wants for you.
 
Live the days you have left with a determination not to waste them but to invest them in what matters. You can do this by recognizing that after your days are up, you will live forever and how you live today is an investment for how you will live in heaven.
 
Be aware of what you put into your mind, heart, and soul. The more of your heart the Holy Spirit gets, the more of God’s peace and joy you will experience.  The more of God’s peace and joy you experience, the more of your purpose in this life you will experience. 
 
One challenge I would like to leave with you.  I want you to try something for a solid month, and if you do, I am confident it will help you grow closer to God and the people He has placed in your life.  Here is my challenge:
 
If you are single, put your phone down 30 minutes before you go to bed and thoughtfully read your Bible for 10-15 minutes (Pick any book in the Bible).
 
If you have children, make it a point that anytime you are sharing a meal together, that your phone is off or away from you. Before you eat dinner, thank God for your meal, while you eat dinner check in with each other about what is happening in each family member’s life, and then when diner is over, pick a verse(s) to read before you get up from the table.
 
[1] The Hebrew word for fear is “yir·ʾā(h)” (יִרְאָה); it is “a feeling of profound respect for someone or something, often a deity, conceived of as fear” according to Lexham Research Lexicon of the Hebrew Bible.
[2] R.C. Sproul, Ephesians: An Expositional Commentary (Sanford, FL: Ligonier Ministries; 2023), 78.

The Walk of the Wise (Part 1)

From the Pulpit of Keith Miller
Meadowbrooke Church
August 18, 2024
 
 
The Walk of the Wise
Ephesians 5:14-21
 
Introduction:
I understand that Ephesians 5:1-13 is a difficult section in the Bible, for at least 50% of the men and about 25% of the women in churches across America view porn at least once a month.  To listen to three weeks of sermons on Bible verses that address sexual sins when you already feel defeated is surely discouraging.  According to one study, 43 percent of Christian men and 20 percent of Christian women acknowledge that your exposure to porn (and any sexual sin for that matter) has worsened their relationship with God.[1]  What that means is that some of you not only feel stuck and defeated, but you also believe that you are far from God and that He is so disgusted by you he wants little or nothing to do with you.  I want you to know that if I just described you, you have bought into a lie! 
 
One of the titles given to the devil is “the accuser” and what is said of him is that he is, “the accuser of our brothers and sisters... the one who accuses them before our God day and night” (Rev. 12:10).  Jesus said of the devil that, “He was a murderer from the beginning and does not stand in the truth because there is no truth in him.  Whenever he tells a lie, he speaks from his own nature, because he is a liar and the father of lies” (John 8:44).  The devil is both master accuser and master liar, and he wants nothing more than for you to believe that your ongoing pattern of sins is making you more inaccessible to a Holy God whose wrath is being stored up against humanity for sins such as sexual immorality, impurity, and greed (v. 3). 
 
It is for the above reasons that I wanted to spend so much more time on Ephesians 5:14 then we were able to last week.  What you must remember is that Paul is not writing to non-Christians in his epistle to the Ephesians, but to Christians whose most dangerous adversary exists in their own flesh.  It is the thing that the apostle Paul wrote about in Romans 7:14-23,
For we know that the Law is spiritual, but I am fleshly, sold into bondage to sin. For I do not understand what I am doing; for I am not practicing what I want to do, but I do the very thing I hate. However, if I do the very thing I do not want to do, I agree with the Law, that the Law is good. But now, no longer am I the one doing it, but sin that dwells in me. For I know that good does not dwell in me, that is, in my flesh; for the willing is present in me, but the doing of the good is not. For the good that I want, I do not do, but I practice the very evil that I do not want. But if I do the very thing I do not want, I am no longer the one doing it, but sin that dwells in me.
 
I find then the principle that evil is present in me, the one who wants to do good. For I joyfully agree with the law of God in the inner person, but I see a different law in the parts of my body waging war against the law of my mind, and making me a prisoner of the law of sin, the law which is in my body’s parts.
 
What is important to point out is that Paul was not paralyzed by the tension and struggle he experienced with sin in light of his relationship with Jesus, for it is in what he wrote in response to the war he experienced within that should help us to appreciate Ephesians 5:14-21.  What are we to do with the evil that is present within?  Listen to what Paul writes in Romans 7:24-25, “Wretched man that I am! Who will set me free from the body of this death? Thanks be to God through Jesus Christ our Lord! So then, on the one hand I myself with my mind am serving the law of God, but on the other, with my flesh the law of sin.”
 
I have four points that really serve as a plan to keep you from spiritual apathy that can result in the atrophy of your faith and relationship with Jesus.  I will spend all this sermon on the first point and next week, we will look at the remaining three.  However, I want to list my four points so that you know where we are going in Ephesians 5:14-21.  Here is a pathway I believe the apostle gives us through the inspiration of the Holy Spirit that will keep you from spiritual apathy and atrophy:
Run to Jesus as your only advocate (v. 14)
Use your time wisely for what matters (vv. 15-16)
Live with an awareness of God’s will for your life (v. 17)
Be intentional about what you consume into your mind, soul, and heart (vv. 18-21)
 
Apathy is the kind of thing that happens when you are so paralyzed by shame that you stay in your shame instead of allowing it to motivate you into repentance.  Repentance is never stagnant but always mobile in the direction where Jesus can be found.  Apathy is what happens when you give up and are no longer interested in moving forward.  Spiritual apathy, if left untreated, will lead to spiritual atrophy.  Spiritual atrophy happens when your shame renders you spiritually immobile.  
 
Run to Jesus as Your Only Advocate (v. 14)
Ephesians 5:14 is not so much an appeal to non-Christians to find Jesus, but for Christians.  Most commentators/scholars agree that verse 14 is most likely a verse from an early church hymn quoted by Paul that was familiar to the Christians in Ephesus.  What I find so fascinating about the placement of verse 14 is that it is sandwiched between verses 3-13 that address the need to refuse to participate in the “useless deeds of darkness” and 15-21 that encourages the Christian to live wisely as children of light. 
 
Here is what I think was going on and why I believe Paul felt the need to write what he wrote in Ephesians 5:3-13. I believe that there were some Christians who were spiritually and morally apathetic towards certain forms of sexual immorality, impurity, greed, filthy and foolish talk, and vulgar joking.  Not only were they apathetic, but their apathy resulted in a type of spiritual atrophy resulting in their participation in certain forms of sin, which Paul listed.  In a very real sense, there were some in the Ephesian Church, as is true in churches today, who were slumbering in certain sins.  One of the many reasons why I believe this is the case is what is written in Romans 13:11-14,
Do this, knowing the time, that it is already the hour for you to awaken from sleep; for now salvation is nearer to us than when we first believed. The night is almost gone, and the day is near. Therefore let’s rid ourselves of the deeds of darkness and put on the armor of light. Let’s behave properly as in the day, not in carousing and drunkenness, not in sexual promiscuity and debauchery, not in strife and jealousy. But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh in regard to its lusts.
 
As is true with many of the hymns and praise songs you are familiar with, the one quoted in verse 14 is infused with language from the Bible.  In fact, there is so much packed into verse 14, that I could preach multiple sermons just on this one short verse, but I will not do that.  What I will do is share four scripture passages with you that will open Ephesians 5:14 up to you in the same way they probably did for the Christians in Ephesus. I am not going to say a whole lot about the verses, I only want you to see them for reasons I believe will be obvious.  So, here we go:
Here are two passages on what is waiting for those who have been redeemed by Jesus: 
“Arise, shine; for your light has come, And the glory of the Lord has risen upon you. ‘For behold, darkness will cover the earth and deep darkness the peoples; But the Lord will rise upon you And His glory will appear upon you.’” (Isa. 60:1-2)
 
“And many of those who sleep in the dust of the ground will awake, these to everlasting life, but the others to disgrace and everlasting contempt.” (Dan. 12:2)
 
Here is a passage on how the redeemed should respond to God as a Father who loving disciplines His children:
“Do not rejoice over me, enemy of mine. Though I fall I will rise; Though I live in darkness, the Lord is a light for me. I will endure the rage of the Lord Because I have sinned against Him, Until He pleads my case and executes justice for me. He will bring me out to the light, And I will look at His righteousness.” (Mic. 7:8-9)
 
There is a fourth scripture passage I believe is tied to Ephesians 5:14, and it is found in Jonah 1:6.  Before we look at that verse, you need to consider the story of Jonah and how he got into trouble after being commanded by God to go to Ninevah (the capital of Assyria) to preach about the coming wrath of God upon Ninevah; Jonah got on a boat to go the opposite direction from where God told Him to go.  While in disobedience, we are told, “the Lord hurled a great wind on the sea...” (Jon. 1:4) which made life very difficult for everyone on the boat.  While everyone on the boat desperately threw stuff off the boat to lighten it in hopes of surviving the storm, Jonah was sound asleep in the stern of the ship.  Put another way: The prophet Jonah was asleep in his sin of rebellion.  Finally the captain of the ship found Jonah sleeping and had some words for Jonah: “How is it that you are sleeping? Get up, call on your god! Perhaps your god will be concerned about us so that we will not perish” (Jonah 1:6).
 
In summary, it became obvious to the sailors that Jonah was running from His God (1:7-14).  When they asked what they needed to do to get Jonah’s God to calm the storm, the prophet told them that they needed to throw him overboard (vv. 15-16).  They tried to avoid throwing Jonah overboard, but it became clear that it was their only option, so they threw him into the sea, and while in the sea, “the Lord designated a great fish to swallow Jonah, and Jonah was in the stomach of the fish for three days and three nights” (1:17).  While in the belly of the “great fish” Jonah endured the rage and discipline of his heavenly Father because he sinned against Him.  Jonah called out to the Lord for help (Jon. 2:1-9), and God delivered His prophet by commanding the fish to vomit Jonah up onto the dry land (v. 10).  Awakened from his proverbial slumber from the stern of the ship to the belly of the great fish, Jonah obeyed God’s will upon his life by going to Nineveh to preach the word of God to a people walking in the darkness of their sins and idols (3:1-9).  
 
The whole reason why Jonah fled for Tarshish when God told him to go to Nineveh is because of what Nineveh represented.  Nineveh was the capital of the Assyrian empire whose army has been credited with some of the earliest forms of psychological warfare.  Nineveh was filled with violent people who were guilty of some of the most horrible things against humanity.  After Jonah preached his very brief message about God’s coming wrath, the entire city repented (see Jonah 3:5-10).  Jonah’s response was resentment and anger; this is what he prayed after God spared Nineveh from His wrath: “Please Lord, was this not what I said when I was still in my own country? Therefore in anticipation of this I fled to Tarshish, since I knew that You are a gracious and compassionate God, slow to anger and abundant in mercy, and One who relents of disaster” (4:1-2).
 
Against the backdrop of God’s promise of redemption for His people because of the shed blood of Jesus (Isa. 60:1-2; Dan. 12:2), how His redeemed people ought to respond to His loving discipline (Mic. 7:8-9), and Jonah’s story of his rebellion and repentance, consider Ephesians 5:14 again: “Awake, sleeper, and arise from the dead, and Christ will shine on you.” 
 
Conclusion
Maybe you are like Jonah, while in your sin, you are asleep in it.  Maybe you have slipped back into certain sins due to your spiritual apathy.  Maybe your apathy has become spiritual atrophy.   If you are truly a Christian, this 2 Corinthians 4:6 describes how it is you have been made alive with Christ: “For God, who said, ‘Light shall shine out of darkness,’ is the One who has shone in our hearts to give the Light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Christ.”  You are here today, not by accident, but because it is time to wake up!  The enemy of your soul wants nothing more for you than to remain in your spiritual apathy and atrophy, but today your heavenly Father summons you from the stern of your rebellious slumber: “Awake, sleeper, and arise from the dead, and Christ will shine on you.”
 
So, how do you get up from your slumber?  You must repent by calling your sin for what it is and by turning from it to Jesus.  Listen to what the Bible says about your sin:
“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous, so that He will forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9)
 
“My little children, I am writing these things to you so that you may not sin. And if anyone sins, we have an Advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous; and He Himself is the propitiation for our sins; and not for ours only, but also for the sins of the whole world.” (1 John 2:1-2)
 
The Devil is a liar and the great accuser, but Jesus is a great savior and our all-sufficient advocate!  We can run to Him in the spirit of Micah 7:8-9 and we can respond to our sins, failures, and even the devil himself: “Do not rejoice over me, enemy of mine. Though I fall I will rise; Though I live in darkness, the Lord is a light for me. I will endure the rage of the Lord Because I have sinned against Him, Until He pleads my case and executes justice for me. He will bring me out to the light, And I will look at His righteousness” (Mic. 7:8-9).
 
One more thing I would like to point out that I find ironic about Jonah’s story and ours.  It is possible that the “great fish” that swallowed Jonah was some other creature rather than a whale, but in my opinion that is doubtful.  I do believe that the “great fish” that swallowed Jonah was most likely a whale.  A species of whale that is large enough to swallow a human and swam in the same waters where Jonah most likely would have been tossed overboard is the sperm whale which can grow up to 60 feet long.  Do you want to know what else the sperm whale is known for?  It is known for both being one of the few whales that vomit, and it is also known for what it vomits!  The sperm whale’s vomit is called Ambergris (aka liquid gold).  In the water, it is a dung-like smelly substance, but once exposed to the sunlight and saltwater, it develops a muskier (perfumed) odor. 
 
After Jonah was vomited up onto the shore, covered in Ambergris and saltwater under the Arabic sun, it was not the stench of death and dung that Jonah was covered in, but a fragrant aroma that was the result of the forgiveness of his heavenly Father that he did not deserve that resulted in his redemption! 
 
Oh dear Christian!  Can you see the parallels of Jonah’s story and ours?  Jesus said, “...for just as Jonah was in the stomach of the sea monster for three days and three nights, so will the Son of Man be in the heart of the earth for three days and three nights” (Matt. 12:40).  Jesus died a death we deserved for our sins, was buried in the belly of the earth, and three days later... He came out of the tomb for our redemption!  Unlike Jonah, we are not covered by Ambergris and salt water under the hot sun!  No, we are covered in something infinitely better!  If you are a Christian, it is in Jesus, that you have redemption; listen again to Ephesians 1:7-8, “In Him we have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of our wrongdoings, according to the riches of His grace which He lavished on us.” If you are a Christian, you are covered in the precious blood of Jesus Christ, and according to the apostle Peter: “...you were not redeemed with perishable things like silver or gold from your futile way of life inherited from your forefathers, but with precious blood, as of a lamb unblemished and spotless, the blood of Christ.” 
 
My appeal to you is the appeal of Ephesians 5:14; do not slumber in your sin and do not stay there!  Do not be apathetic towards those sins that the wrath of God is coming for and those sins for which Jesus endured that wrath you deserved.  You are covered under the blood of Jesus and because that is the case, “There is now no condemnation at all for those who are in Christ Jesus” (Rom. 8:1).  So turn, “Awake, sleeper, and arise from the dead, and Christ will shine on you.”
 
[1] Keith Rose, How Porn Affects Church Attendance (Covenant Eyes; 2023)

Risen With Jesus

From the Pulpit of Keith Miller
Meadowbrooke Church
August 11, 2024
 
In 2012, D.A. Carson published his book, The Intolerance of Tolerance.  Around the time his book released, he spoke on the subject at a conference I attended; I remember thinking that his book was timely and potentially prophetic, but none of us could have fully appreciated the gravity of what was coming.  The following quote from Carson’s book illustrates exactly what I mean:
Neither the old tolerance nor the new is an intellectual position; rather, each is a social response. The old tolerance is the willingness to put up with, allow, or endure people and ideas with whom we disagree; in its purest form, the new tolerance is the social commitment to treat all ideas and people as equally right, save for those people who disagree with this view of tolerance.  Advocates of the new tolerance sacrifice wisdom and principle in support of just one supreme good: upholding their view of tolerance. So those who uphold and practice the older tolerance, enmeshed as they inevitably are in some value system, are written off as intolerant. Thus banished, they no longer deserve a place at the table.[1] 
 
I would suggest that the “older” tolerance allowed space to disagree charitably with those who did not share your point of view.  Not only are those of the “older tolerance” banished from a place at the “table.” Today, we find ourselves in a very interesting state of affairs in that if your ideology does not line up with that of the loudest and most vocal of ideological voices regarding sex, identity, what it means to be human, and what must be tolerated, you will be diagnosed with a certain phobia and placed into the category of “mental illness.”
 
So, before we get into Ephesians this morning, I thought it would be fun it first define the word Phobia and then consider some phobias that do actually exist to better appreciate Ephesians 5:11-14. 
 
So, what is a phobia?  According to the National Institute of Mental Health (NIH), a phobia is a “intense, irrational fear of something that poses little or no actual danger.”  Furthermore, NIH affirms that, “Although adults with phobias may realize that these fears are irrational, even thinking about facing the feared object or situation brings on severe anxiety symptoms.”  According to Wikipedia, a phobia is, “an anxiety disorder, defined by an irrational, unrealistic, persistent and excessive fear of an object or situation.”  The definition that Merriam-Webster still provides for “phobia” is, “an exaggerated usually inexplicable and illogical fear of a particular object, class of objects, or situation.” 
So, permit me to list a few common phobias and then share with you some other phobias that are not as common. 
Acrophobia: An intense fear of heights.
Claustrophobia: An intense fear of confined spaces.
Arachnophobia: An intense fear of spiders.
Entomophobia: An intense fear of insects.
 
Here is a list of phobias that you may not have heard of before:
Arachibutyrophobia: An intense fear of peanut butter sticking to the roof of your mouth.
Nomophobia: An intense fear of being without your mobile phone.
Plutophobia: An intense fear of money.
Hippopotomonstrosesquippedaliophobia (a 36-letter word): An intense fear of long words.
 
Taking a stance against something is not necessarily due to a phobia but possibly a moral conviction.  A legitimate question that must be answered is from what standard does your moral conviction come?  Does it come from culture, or does it come from something that transcends culture?  For the Christian, our moral standard is not culture but the apostles and prophets, with Jesus Christ as our cornerstone.  Here is how the apostle Paul explained what standard we use to judge what is good or evil, it is Ephesians 2:19-22, “So then you are no longer strangers and foreigners, but you are fellow citizens with the saints, and are of God’s household, having been built on the foundation of the apostles and prophets, Christ Jesus Himself being the cornerstone, in whom the whole building, being fitted together, is growing into a holy temple in the Lord, in whom you also are being built together into a dwelling of God in the Spirit.”
 
Jesus, who is the King of kings and Lord of lords and serves as the cornerstone of His Church, gave those who make up His Church this command, “Go, therefore, and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, teaching them to follow all that I commanded you; and behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age” (Matt. 28:19-20).  The prophets and the apostles are the foundation of Jesus’ Church, and it is the prophets and the apostles whose teachings make up the Bible as the Word of God.  The Bible is, “...inspired by God and beneficial for teaching, for rebuke, for correction, for training in righteousness; so that the man or woman of God may be fully capable, equipped for every good work” (2 Tim. 3:16-17).  If we are going follow Jesus and live as though the Bible is the Word of God, we will be labeled by those still in darkness as “phobic” and “intolerant.”
 
As a people who, “were once darkness, but now... light in the Lord” we live for what God loves and we stand against what God hates.  Listen, if we are going to try to learn what is pleasing to the Lord (v. 10), we will be compelled to live counter-cultural in a world that calls evil good, and good evil.  As “children of light” we belong to the God who condemns any culture that calls evil good, and good evil: “Woe to those who call evil good, and good evil; Who substitute darkness for light and light for darkness; Who substitute bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter! Woe to those who are wise in their own eyes and clever in their own sight” (Isa. 5:20)!
We Expose the Darkness by Not Participating in It
Now we come to Ephesians 5:11 where we are commanded to avoid all participation “in the useless deeds of darkness.”  What does that mean?  The NIV translates verse 11 this way: “Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them.”  The NKJV gets closer to the heart of what Paul is communicating: “And have no fellowshipwith the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather expose them.” The word used for “participate” (synkoinōneō) does not mean “fellowship” in the Greek, but it does mean “share.” It is a Greek word that is also used in Philippians 4:14, “Nevertheless, you have done well to share [synkoinōneō] with me in my difficulty.”  To share in something is to have fellowship with it.  
 
What are the useless deeds of darkness?  Well, they include but are not limited to sexual immorality, impurity, greed, filthiness, foolish talk, and vulgar joking.  The useless deeds of darkness is what we were once slaves to before we were made alive with Christ when we, “lived in the lusts of our flesh, indulging the desires of the flesh and of the mind, and were by nature children of wrath” (Eph. 2:3).  The useless deeds of darkness is what the apostle John described in 1 John 2:16, “For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh and the lust of the eyes and the boastful pride of life, is not from the Father, but is from the world.” 
 
You may recall how the holiness of God is used to the third degree unlike any other attribute of God mentioned in the Bible.  Day and night the seraphim do not cease to call out to one another, “Holy, Holy, Holy is the Lord God, the Almighty, who was and who is and who is to come” (Rev. 4:8).  I pointed out how this is a literary devise used in the ancient languages to emphasis a very important point.  There is another literary devise I told you about when we began this series in Ephesians, which comes in the form of repeated words or phrases; one such phrase that is repeated over and over again in Ephesians are the phrases “in Christ”, “in the Lord”, “in Christ Jesus”, and “in Him”; collectively they are used about 33 times. 
 
If you are a Christian, your identity and life is in Christ.  Paul’s description of the Christian as being “in Christ” is a phrase that is equivalent to “remaining” in Jesus; here is what Jesus said about remaining in Him: “I am the true vine, and My Father is the vinedresser. Every branch in Me that does not bear fruit, He takes away; and every branch that bears fruit, He prunes it so that it may bear more fruit. You are already clean because of the word which I have spoken to you. Remain in Me, and I in you. Just as the branch cannot bear fruit of itself but must remain in the vine, so neither can you unless you remain in Me” (John 15:1-4).  Sinclair Ferguson said this about what it means to be “in the Lord”:
To be in the Lord is to belong to a new world, to inhabit a new kingdom in which we become new men and women.  In this new kingdom, new powers are at work in us – the powers of the Spirit of the crucified, risen, ascended, reigning and returning Christ.  Once we were in the darkness.  Worse, the darkness was in us – we were darkness.  Now we have been drawn into the light, illuminated by Christ the Light of the world.  More, we have been invaded and transformed by Christ the Light.  In the Lord we are light![2]  
 
So, if we are now “children of light” because of our redemption and union with Jesus, why in the world would we want to have fellowship with or share in the useless deeds of darkness?
 
Not only are we not to participate in the “useless deeds of darkness” but we are to “expose them.”  What does Paul mean that we are to “expose” the useless deeds of darkness?  Well, it is clear Paul is not telling us to avoid the world, for that would go against the way he lived his life and much of what is written in the both the Old Testament and New Testament.  The design and plan for God’s people was always to be on mission by entering into the darkness as His instrument to light up the darkness.  Israel was saved from Egypt to be God’s kingdom of priests to be His light in a dark world: “Now then, if you will indeed obey My voice and keep My covenant, then you shall be My own possession among all the peoples, for all the earth is Mine; and you shall be to Me a kingdom of priests and a holy nation” (Exod. 19:5-6). 
 
Israel’s great failure was that they repeatedly and continually and habitually as a nation, “participated in the fruitless deeds of darkness” when by their mere existence should have exposed the emptiness and uselessness of sin. Israel’s problem was a heart problem only Jesus is able to fix.  Jesus is God’s “Yes” to the promise of Deuteronomy 30:6, “The Lord your God will circumcise your heart and the hearts of your descendants, to love the Lord your God with all your heart and all your soul, so that you may live.”  Jesus is God’s answer to Ezekiel 36:26, “Moreover, I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit within you; and I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh.”  You, Christian, are the recipient of such promises through and in Jesus, so why would you even want to have fellowship, share, and remain in the fruitless deeds of darkness that rob you of the kind of life you were designed to have in God?  Not only are the “deeds of darkness” fruitless, but the wrath of a holy God is set against such deeds!  This is why Paul wrote concerning those who continue to practice sexual immorality, impurity, and greed (5:3), “for it is disgraceful even to speak of the things which are done by them in secret” (v. 12).
 
Our Life in Christ Exposes the Uselessness of the Deeds of Darkness
The only hope for lost humanity is Jesus!  He is the only solution for our sin problem.  Only through the life of Jesus and the death that He died for sinners can the spiritually dead be raised to new life. Sinclair Ferguson is spot on in his description of what happened when the Christian was saved from the wrath of God: “We have been invaded and transformed by Christ the Light.”  Now as those who are alive with Christ, we carry the light of Jesus into the darkness of the world, this is why Jesus said, “You are the light of the world.... Your light must shine before people in such a way that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father who is in heaven” (Matt. 5:14, 16).  So what happens when light invades a dark room?  It exposes what is in the room. 
 
One of two things will happen when light exposes what is in the darkness, it will anger those who love the darkness, or it will reveal a better way to those tired and wearied by the darkness.  To expose the darkness in the context of Ephesians is to contrast the living against the dead.  It is not picket signs on the corner, bumper stickers, or hats that protest the darkness.  It is what happens when light pierces the darkness of sin’s domain.  The light of Christ displayed in and through His people reveals to those in the darkness that there is a better way because Jesus is the only way to experience the kind of redemption of our souls and the forgiveness of all our sins that will grant us true salvation and freedom (1:7). Many will reject Christ as the only remedy for our salvation as intolerant and they will run to the darkness, but there will be some whose sin will be exposed by the light of Christ, and they will run to Him for the life only He can give.  This is the point Paul makes in verse 13, “But all things become visible when they are exposed by the light, for everything that becomes visible is light.” I think the New Living Translation translates this verse in less confusing way: “But their evil intentions will be exposed when the light shines on them, for the light makes everything visible.”
 
Legislation and laws are good only in that it helps to suppress the evil we humans are capable of, but it can never fix the evil we are capable of.  If you are darkness, you will yield the “useless” fruits of darkness to one degree or another.  Only the gospel of Jesus Christ can remedy the dark heart of humanity! The gospel of Jesus Christ alone, “is the power of God for salvation to everyone who believes” (Rom. 1:16).  Christian, you are living proof that the same power that raised Jesus from the grave is still possible today!  You serve as a reminder everywhere you go that either the wrath of God can be avoided through Jesus, or the wrath of God is coming upon those who reject Him (see 2 Cor. 2:14-16).
 
We who were asleep and dead in our sins, are only alive because the light of Christ has shown upon us.  It is here in verse 14 that Paul quotes what was most likely an early church hymn composed on the basis of Isaiah 60:1-2 and Christ as the fulfillment of its promise:
“Awake, sleeper,
And arise from the dead,
And Christ will shine on you.”
 
Here is what Isaiah 60:1-2 promises: “Arise, shine; for your light has come, And the glory of the Lord has risen upon you. ‘For behold, darkness will cover the earth And deep darkness the peoples; But the Lord will rise upon you And His glory will appear upon you.’”  Here is another one for those who reject Jesus as God!  Only Yahweh has the power to redeem and raise the dead, yet Jesus has done in your life what only God is capable of doing.  We who were once dead, heard the voice of Christ, and we arose to follow Him and now we live! We who once enjoyed the darkness, delight in walking in light as those who now belong to the One who said, “I am the Light of the world; the one who follows Me will not walk in the darkness, but will have the Light of life” (John 8:12).  Pursing Jesus is the only way to fight against our own sin and the temptation to participate in the useless deeds of darkness. 
 
Amen.
 
[1] D.A. Carson, The Intolerance of Tolerance (Grand Rapids, MI: William B. Eerdmans Publishing Company; 2012), 98.
[2] Sinclair B. Ferguson, Let’s Study: Ephesians (East Peoria, IL: The Banner of Truth Trust; 2021), 132.

Live The Jesus Way

From the Pulpit of Keith Miller
Meadowbrooke Church
August 4, 2024
 
My sermon today is meant to be both helpful and hopeful.  What we read in verses 7-10 is encouraging to you if your faith and trust is in Jesus Christ as the only One qualified to atone for all of your sins as the Lion and the Lamb.  These verses are encouraging if you believe that Jesus while fully divine was also fully human for the purpose of living the life you could not live to die upon the cross for your sins while He was perfectly sinless, and that all the wrath of a Holy God fell upon Him in your place. 
 
If you are a Christian, you are no longer in darkness, but because of nothing you have done and everything He has done... you are “light in the Lord” and now able to “walk as children of light.”  Because you are a Christian, you know Him and long for His appearing in the same manner the apostle Peter described: “...and though you have not seen Him, you love Him, and though you do not see Him now, but believe in Him, you greatly rejoice with joy inexpressible and full of glory” (1 Pet. 3:8).  It is because you are a Christian that there is coming a day when you also will be able to face death with the same confidence the apostle Paul did while facing death: “I have fought the good fight, I have finished the course, I have kept the faith; in the future there is reserved for me the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous Judge, will award to me on that day; and not only to me, but also to all who have loved His appearing” (2 Tim. 4:7-8).  This is why we can sing songs like “He Who is to Come” with hope and confidence:
There is a day coming
When the old will pass away
Every wrong will be made right
No darkness no night
The Son will light the way
 
There is a king coming
The one who conquered death and grave
No more pain and no more sorrow
This hope for tomorrow
Is our hope for today
 
He who is to come
Christ the Son of man
Riding on the clouds with a crown upon His head
Every eye will see Him
With the nail scars in His hands[1]
If you are a Christian, you belong to God as His beloved child (5:1) because He chose you before the foundation of the earth (1:4), He forgave and redeemed you through the shed blood of His Son, Jesus (1:7), and have been adopted as a child of God according to the good pleasure of His will (1:5).  If you are a Christian, you are now alive with Jesus (2:4-5), and because you are alive with Christ, you are God’s, “workmanship [poiēma], created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them” (Eph. 2:10). 
 
You Were Saved from the Wrath of God
If you are a Christian, you have been saved from the wrath of an infinitely holy God!  You who were once dead in your offenses and sins, walked according to the course of this world, lived in the lusts and desires of your flesh and mind, and were by nature a child of the wrath of God, stand before God as one who has been fully pardoned, forgiven, and loved because the wrath you deserved, Jesus willingly endured.  This is why Paul wrote in Ephesians 5:6-7, “See that no one deceives you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience.
 
When I preached on verses 1-6, I spent a considerable amount of time explaining that “these things” in verse 6 include sexual immorality, impurity, and greed.  Sexual immorality is any perversion of sex that has not been sanctioned to be enjoyed between a husband and a wife within the bounds of the covenant of marriage. Impurity includes any sexual sin but is not limited to sexual sins. Greed is any form of covetousness which also includes the taking of a person for sexual pleasure who does not belong to you because you are not married to that person, and this can be done physically as well as mentally.  It is because of sexual immorality, impurity, and greed that the wrath of God comes. 
 
However, it is not only because of sexual immorality, impurity, and greed that the wrath of God is coming; the wrath of God comes also because of filthiness, foolish talk, and vulgar joking.  Jesus said of that what comes out of your mouth is a symptom of what is in your heart: “The good person out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth what is good; and the evil person out of the evil treasure brings forth what is evil; for his mouth speaks from that which fills his heart” (Luke 6:45).  In short, the wrath of God comes because of sin.  In Revelation 1:18 we are told: “For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of people who suppress the truth in unrighteousness.”  
 
What is “wrath?”  Well, according to the dictionary, it is “strong, stern, or fierce anger.”  God’s strong, stern, and fierce anger is provoked over sin, and we are warned about His fierce anger over sin both in the Old Testament and New Testament.  For you to understand and appreciate the mercy, love, and grace of God, you must understand that sin is serious and God’s anger over sin is white hot against those guilty of it! 
 
We do not have the time for me to get exhaustive regarding the wrath of God over sin but permit me to offer you some glimpse into the explanation God’s word gives us for why He takes sin so seriously.  For starters, there is only one attribute that is repeated not twice, but three times, and that attribute is the holiness of God.  In Isaiah 6:3 and Revelation 4:8 we encounter the holiness of God expressed in a way that no other attribute of God is expressed:
“And one called out to another and said, ‘Holy, Holy, Holy, is the Lord of armies. The whole earth is full of His glory.’” (Isa. 6:3)
 
“And the four living creatures, each one of them having six wings, are full of eyes around and within; and day and night they do not cease to say, ‘Holy, holy, holy is the Lord God, the Almighty, who was and who is and who is to come.’” (Rev. 4:8)
 
Regarding the holiness of God, the sinless Seraphim – a specific type of angel commissioned and designed for the throne room of God – attribute the Almighty with a literary device by repeating three words to emphasize the holiness of God, in Scripture it is called the three-times-holy.  Even the Seraphim, before the presence of God, must cover their eyes and their feet (Isa. 6:2), and Isaiah’s response before the presence of the Holy One was one of cursing upon himself: “Woe to me, for I am ruined!  Because I am a man of unclean lips, and I live among a people of unclean lips; for my eyes have seen the King, the Lord of armies” (Isa. 6:5).  It is of this God that the prophet Habakkuk said: “Are You not from time everlasting, Lord, my God, my Holy One? Your eyes are too pure to look at evil...” (Hab. 1:12a, 13a).  In Nahum we are told that God is a “jealous and avenging God is the Lord; The Lord is avenging and wrathful. The Lord takes vengeance on His adversaries, And He reserves wrath for His enemies” (Nah. 1:2).  And when it comes to the sinfulness of the nations, we are told that all of the wicked must drink the cup of His wrath: “For a cup is in the hand of the Lord, and the wine foams; it is well mixed, and He pours out of this; certainly all the wicked of the earth must drain and drink its dregs” (Ps. 75:8). 
 
The cup of God’s wrath reserved for the wicked is the cup Jesus drank.  The Son of God, the perfect sinless lamb, the Groom of the Church drank the cup of God’s wrath!  “The only begotten Son of God, begotten of the Father before all worlds; God of God, Light of Light, very God of very God.... Who, for us men and for our salvation came down from heaven and was incarnate by the Holy Spirit of the Virgin Mary, and was made man”[2] was born to die for sinful man!  In the garden of Gethsemane, Jesus prayed about the cup reserved for the wicked: “And He went a little beyond them, and fell on His face and prayed, saying, ‘My Father, if it is possible, let this cup pass from Me; yet not as I will, but as You will.’ He went away again a second time and prayed, saying, ‘My Father, if this cup cannot pass away unless I drink from it, Your will be done.’” (Matt. 26:39, 42).  Jesus drank the cup of God’s wrath for our redemption, and He drank every last drop on the cross by becoming curse in our place: “Christ redeemed us from the curse of the Law, having become a curse for us—for it is written: ‘Cursed is everyone who hangs on a Tree’” (Gal. 3:13).  This is why Jesus said of Himself: “The Father loves the Son and has entrusted all things to His hand.  The one who believes in the Son has eternal life; but the one who does not obey the Son will not see life, but the wrath of God remains on him” (John 3:35-36).  Hell is how the wrath of God will be carried out, and Jesus described it as a place, “where their worm does not die, and the fire is not extinguished” (Mark 9:48).
 
 
 
You Are Redeemed to Live as Children of Light
However, if you are a Christian, you who were once a child of wrath are now a child of mercy, and thereby an adopted child of the Living God through the price Jesus paid by His blood.  R.C. Sproul wrote of the salvation of sinners, “The glory of the gospel is this: The one from whom we need to be saved is the one who has saved us.”  In his magnum opus, The Cross of Christ, John Stott described Christ’s sacrifice for our salvation this way: “Divine love triumphed over divine wrath by divine self-sacrifice.”[3] 
 
If you are confused as to how seriously God takes sin or how offended by your sin He was, you need not look beyond the cross on which Jesus died! The cross is the place where our redeemer bore a holy and justified wrath on our behalf where He received the ax of God’s justice in our place! Upon the cross, where Jesus was cursed in our place, He was pierced for our offenses and was crushed for our wrongdoings (Isa. 53:5).  
 
We who have been redeemed by the blood of Christ are no longer children of wrath, and because we are no longer children of wrath, we are not to become partners with those who continue to practice the very thing that the wrath of God is reserved for.  Christian, you who were once darkness are a child of light.  As children of light, we are to live out our new life in Christ in the following four ways:
We are to walk as children of light by not partnering with the sons of disobedience (v. 7). The Greek word for “partner” is symmetochos which can also be translated “sharer” or “partaker.”  Paul uses the same word in Ephesians 3:6 to describe how we, Gentiles, share, partake, and participate in the promise of Christ as the body of Christ.  We who once were satisfied by the broken cisterns of this world, now find our satisfaction in Jesus as the Living Water (John 7:37-39).
 
We are to walk as children of light by displaying the light of Christ (v. 8). If you are a Christian, you are no longer darkness, but sons and daughters, Light of Life (John 12:36). Jesus said of all who belong to Him: “You are the light of the world.... Your light must shine before people in such a way that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father who is in heaven” (Matt. 5:14, 16).
 
We are to walk as children of light by displaying the fruit of our identity and union in Christ (v. 9). By walking with Christ, we will display the goodness, righteousness, and truth of Jesus for the glory of God and the good of those around us.  Our life is in Jesus, and the evidence that we belong to Him is that His life will shine through our lives. Tony Merida, in his commentary on Ephesians, said it this way: “Those who walk in light do “good works” (2:10), they live righteously (4:24), and they speak truthfully (4:15).”[4]
 
We are to walk as children of light by living lives that are pleasing to the Lord (v. 10). Our lives are not set apart to please people, but to please the One who purchased us with His blood. This is why the apostle Paul wrote in 1 Corinthians 6:18-20, “Flee sexual immorality. Every other sin that a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God, and that you are not your own? For you have been bought for a price: therefore glorify God in your body.”
 
So, what’s the point?  The point is simply this: You, Christian, are a child of a Holy God who poured out His wrath upon His Son so that you would not be consumed by His justice but be overwhelmed by His kindness, grace, love, and mercy through Jesus!  Because you are no longer dead in your offenses and sins (2:1), you walk as one who is alive in Christ.  Walk as one who has been called, “out of darkness into His marvelous light” (1 Pet. 2:9).  Walk as the forgiven because, “He made Him who knew no sin to be sin on our behalf, so that we might become the righteousness of God in Him” (2 Cor. 5:21).  Walk in light of your new identity because God has declared by the authority of His word: “if anyone is in Christ, this person is a new creation; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come” (2 Cor. 5:17).  You who was once dead in your sins and once walked in darkness, are awake and alive not because of anything you have done but because of everything Christ has accomplished!  This is why we sing,
O to grace how great a debtor
Daily I'm constrained to be
Let Thy grace Lord like a fetter
Bind my wand'ring heart to Thee
Prone to wander Lord I feel it
Prone to leave the God I love
Here's my heart Lord take and seal it
Seal it for Thy courts above.[5]
 
[1] [Passion] by Cody Carnes, Kristian Stanfill, and Sean Curran
[2] From the Nicene Creed
[3] John Stott, The Cross of Christ (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press, 1996), 15.
[4] Tony Merida, Exalting Jesus in Ephesians (Nashville, TN: Holman Reference, 2014), 126.
[5] Come Thou Fount, [Shane and Shane] by Robert Robinson and John Wyeth

Contender (Summary Of Jude)

Guest Speaker, John Byrne, preaches on the book of Jude.

The Jesus Way

From the Pulpit of Keith Miller
Meadowbrooke Church
July 14, 2024
 
I know many of you know my story and how God saved me. Every year at this time I am more mindful of the miracle of God’s mercy, love, and grace upon my life! When God found me, I was so lost!  I was not looking for Him, yet He found me!  God got my attention on July 12, 1991, after I stepped in front of a big old car in the middle of Business Rt. 1 (aka West Lincoln Hwy.).  My graduating class in 1993 was just under 600, the population where I grew up is currently over 70,000, and the hospital I was taken to after I was hit by that big white car currently has 371 beds. 
 
So, the fact that a woman from my father’s church who did not know me decided to pull over to pray for me could be viewed as a coincidence, but then to have the wife of the youth director of that same church assigned to my care is too much to ignore!  Not to mention that eight months before my accident, my father had his accident that God used to get his attention by having his hand just about cut off, and shortly after receiving major surgery on his hand and recovering at home, two guys from a little church located not far from where I was hit by that big white car visited our little house to tell him about Jesus! At the same time my friend’s mom at whose home I ate almost all of my meals and spent almost all of my weekends sleeping in their home because my stepmother was so horrible to me while I was growing up, picked up a Bible and started reading it.  So regardless of if I was at home or at my friend’s house, I was unable to escape from hearing about the God of the Bible and how He sent His Son to die for sinners like me! God orchestrated all of that so that on July 14th while confined to my bed with a major concussion in St. Mary’s Hospital, I was forced to listen to Darrell Adair, the youth director of my father’s little church, tell me about Jesus while my father sat on one side of my bed and Jackie on the other as they prayed for my soul… 33 years ago to the day!  Four days after Darrell’s visit, I finally caved and surrendered my life to Jesus as my Lord and Savior!  
 
So, to say that I am a bit overwhelmed by God’s grace is a bit of an understatement.  God knows how my brain works, and it seems to me that ever year there is something new that I have not thought about since God saved my soul.  I did not sit down to write my sermon manuscript until this past Friday which was the anniversary of the day I was hit by that big white car!  That on the anniversary of one of the most important days of my life, I would be writing my sermon manuscript on Ephesians 5:1-2 is staggering to me!  What is even more staggering is that the God I was running from not only chose me before the foundation of the world (1:3-4), but did so out of a great love for this lost sinner: “In love He predestined us to adoption as sons and daughters through Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the good pleasure of His will, to the praise of the glory of His grace… (vv. 5-6).  This same God made me alive with Jesus on July 18th in the middle of my living room 33 years ago as a result of His rich mercy, great love, and sufficient grace (2:4-5), it is staggering to me! 
 
From everything that you have read, studied, and heard from Ephesians so far, can you blame me for being overwhelmed by God’s undeserved goodness upon my life?  Think about it, 33 years ago while Darrell shared the gospel with my younger 16-year-old rebellious self, that He already determined that He would so mold and shape that teenage kid laying in that hospital bed that 33 years later he would stand before his church family finally ready to preach on Ephesians 5:1-2 after 20 years of pastoral ministry!
 
Here is what I want to say very briefly before we get into these two verses so you can fully appreciate them.  Ephesians 5:1-2 is inserted to make the point of how you can keep from grieving the Holy Spirit (4:30) and why you ought to reject, “the useless deeds of the darkness…”. You, Christian, are beloved by God and you must never forget that!
 
Imitate God Because He Loves You (v. 1)
Tim Keller described this verse in this way: “It’s like putting a radioactive isotope in the middle of your being, and the rays it sends out will shrink your tumors.”[1]  Another way to state this verse is this way: “Because God cherishes you as His dear child, imitate Him instead of the sinful world.” 
 
The word for “imitate” is the Greek word “mimētēs” from which we get the word mimic.  Remember what Paul stated in 4:25-32?  Get rid of falsehood, get rid of ungodly anger, get rid of coveting and taking what does not belong to you, and get rid of unwholesome talk.  Kill it! Make war with it!  Get rid of all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and slander!  Kill it!  Make war with it!  Be killing sin or it will be killing you!  How you get radical about your sin and how you guard yourself against grieving the Holy Spirit is by remembering who you are, a child of a holy God. 
 
When you were dead in your sins, you imitated the life of the prince of the power of the air as the spiritually dead (2:1-3), but now you are alive with Christ and have been adopted as a son and as a daughter of the God you stood against.  Now you are a “beloved” child of God.  What does it mean to be a child of God?  It means that you who were once dead are now alive with Christ (2:4-5), but that is not all that it means!  It means that you who were once an enemy of God are now a friend of God, but it means so, so much more according to Romans 5, “But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Much more then, having now been justified by His blood, we shall be saved from the wrath of God through Him. For if while we were enemies we were reconciled to God through the death of His Son, much more, having been reconciled, we shall be saved by His life” (vv. 8-10).  But wait, we are not just reconciled to God and saved by the Life of Christ, we are heirs with Christ:
So then, brothers and sisters, we are under obligation, not to the flesh, to live according to the flesh—for if you are living in accord with the flesh, you are going to die; but if by the Spirit you are putting to death the deeds of the body, you will live. For all who are being led by the Spirit of God, these are sons and daughters of God. For you have not received a spirit of slavery leading to fear again, but you have received a spirit of adoption as sons and daughters by which we cry out, “Abba! Father!” (Rom. 8:12-15)
 
To go from death to life is a miracle!  To go from an enemy of God to friendship with God is amazing!  But to be reconciled to God through the blood of Jesus and now stand before Him as a full-fledged and a legitimate child of a holy God is staggering!  I am not the only one who thinks this way; the apostle John felt this way and wrote in his epistle: “See how great a love the Father has given us, that we would be called children of God; and in fact we are. For this reason the world does not know us: because it did not know Him” (1 John 3:1).  Or as it is written in Ephesians 1:11-12, “In Him we also have obtained an inheritance, having been predestined according to the purpose of Him who works all things in accordance with the plan of His will, to the end that we who were the first to hope in the Christ would be to the praise of His glory.”
 
Listen, we were the lost sheep that Jesus left the 99 to find (Luke 15:1-7)!  We were the lost coin, that Jesus turns the house upside down to save and all of heaven rejoices over when you were found (Luke 15:8-10)!  Christian, you were the prodigal son Jesus described in his parable who wallowed in the sloop and sludge who the Father compassionately runs to embrace and throws a party for and commands all of heaven: “Quickly bring out the best robe and put it on him, and put a ring on his finger and sandals on his feet; and bring the fattened calf, slaughter it, and let’s eat and celebrate; for this son of mine was dead and has come to life again; he was lost and has been found” (Luke 15:22-24).
 
So, as “beloved children” we are commanded to mimic our heavenly Father.  What does that mean?  Well, let me tell you what it does not mean: It does not mean to become what God is, for that is impossible.  He alone is God and there is none like Him.  God is eternal and has always existed; we are creatures made in His image.  God is infinitely sovereign and self-sufficient; we are His image-bearing humans who are designed to find our satisfaction in Him.  God is all-powerful (Omnipotent), while we are fragile.  God is everywhere at once (Omnipresent), while we are finite and limited.  God is all-knowing (Omniscient), while we are always learning. God is perfectly holy and is set apart from creation and alone is to be worshiped as Father, Son, and Holy Spirit; He is the center of all things while we exist to worship Him.  These characteristics that we cannot share with God are known as His incommunicable attributes.
 
God also has characteristics that we can demonstrate in a limited way; these are known as His communicable attributes.  God’s communicable attributes include His justice, wisdom, faithfulness, mercy, goodness, compassion, forgiveness, and love.  There is not one aspect of His character that He needs to improve upon.  While we are called to exercise justice, wisdom, faithfulness, mercy, goodness, compassion, forgiveness, and love we are forever needing to get better at being just, exercising wisdom, practicing faithfulness, demonstrating mercy, being good, compassionate, forgiving, and loving. 
 
God’s justice, wisdom, faithfulness, mercy, goodness, compassion, forgiveness, and love are all character traits we are commanded to imitate in a way that sets apart from the rest of the world.   for this is what it means to, “walk in a manner worthy of the calling with which you have been called” (4:1).  It also includes the, “good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them” (2:10).  This is what Peter meant when he wrote, “As obedient children, do not be conformed to the former lusts which were yours in your ignorance, but like the Holy One who called you, be holy yourselves also in all your behavior; because it is written: ‘You shall be holy, for I am holy.’” (1 Pet. 1:14-16).
 
More specifically though, it is the love of God that resulted in our forgiveness that we are to mimic as God’s “beloved children.” 
 
Walk in Love Because Jesus Redeemed You (v. 2)
Why mimic God in the way that He loves?  Well it is the reason why you, Christian, are “beloved” by God.  Your sins cost God the life of His Son on a cross as an, “offering and a sacrifice…”.  The bruised and bleeding Christ, His torn flesh, His pierced hands and feet, His brow piercing crown of thorns, and his agonizing screams upon the cross as our curse is a testament to the horror and seriousness of our sin.  As James Boice once said, “God’s forgiveness is not a mere overlooking of sin, as though he said, ‘Well, boys will be boys (or girls will be girls). We’ll overlook it for now; just don’t let it happen again.’ God takes sin with such seriousness that he deals with it fully at the cross, and it is on that basis—the death of Jesus—that we can know we are forgiven.”[2]  I saw a quote from another pastor the other day that said, “On the cross, God looked at Christ and saw you. Now, He looks at you and sees Christ.”[3] This is why we are able to sing:
Come Thou fount of ev'ry blessing
Tune my heart to sing Thy grace
Streams of mercy never ceasing
Call for songs of loudest praise
Teach me some melodious sonnet
Sung by flaming tongues above
Praise the mount I'm fixed upon it
Mount of Thy redeeming love[4]
 
What does the love of God look like that we experienced?  It is kindness, it is compassion, it is the type of forgiveness that keeps no record of wrongs!  Think about what the love of God has done for you! You who were once cursed and condemned, Jesus was condemned by being cursed: “Christ redeemed us from the curse of the Law, having become a curse for us—for it is written: ‘Cursed is everyone who hangs on a Tree.’” (Gal. 3:13).  The apostle John defined it for us this way: “In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins” (1 John 4:10).
 
Christ’s death upon the cross for our sins was motivated by His love for us, and when He gave Himself up for us, He did so as an offering and a sacrifice to God as a fragrant aroma that pleased Him.  As one commentator said, Jesus’ sacrifice upon the cross, “gave the perfume of grace and glory, the most pleasing aroma of sacrifice ever.”[5]
 
To “Walk in love, just as Christ also loved…” is one way to live a life that is pleasing to the One who called us to Himself through His Son.  Love is the fuel and fire of worship; it is a love for God and a love for others.  It is a love that makes Romans 12:1 possible: “Therefore I urge you, brothers and sisters, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living and holy sacrifice, acceptable to God, which is your spiritual service of worship.” Amy Carmichael, the famous missionary who spent a lifetime in India and was influential in the outlawing of temple prostitution of children, said of love: “One can give without loving, but one cannot love without giving.”[6]  A young woman who was considering the life of a missionary wrote a letter asking Carmaichael what missionary life was like, Carmaichael answered: “Missionary life is simply a chance to die.” 
 
To love, “as Christ also loved you and gave Himself up for us…” is not to atone for the sins of others but to “walk in love” in a way that you die to yourself for glory of God and the good of others.  It is the kind of love that flows out of the crucified life Paul talked about in Galatians 2:19-20, “I have been crucified with Christ; and it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself up for me.” To love as Christ loved us is to give ourselves to others so that Christ may be formed in them (see Gal. 4:19). 
 
To love as Christ loved is to walk in a way that serves to give to the One who gave Himself for you.  To walk in love is to be devoted to one another (Rom. 12:10), to build up one another (Rom. 14:19; 1 Thes. 5:11), to serve one another (Gal. 5:13), to bear one another’s burdens (Gal. 6:2), to seek the good for one another (1 Thess. 5:15), to live in peace with one another (1 Thes. 5:13), to encourage one another to love and good deeds (Heb. 10:24), to confess our sins to one another (Jas. 5:16), to act in humility towards one another (1 Pet. 5:13), to walk in truth together (1 John 3:18), and so many other “one another’s”! 
 
This is why we read in our Bible: “We love, because He first loved us” (1 John 4:19)”.  We love because we are “beloved children.”  We love because, “Christ also loved you…” Now, my dear brothers and sisters, we not only can love God and others, but love is also the evidence we are our indeed the children of God.  Amen.
 
[1] Timothy J. Keller, The Timothy Keller Sermon Archive (New York City: Redeemer Presbyterian Church, 2013).
[2] James Montgomery Boice, Ephesians: An Expositional Commentary (Grand Rapids, MI: Ministry Resources Library, 1988), 174.
[3] John MacArthur
[4] Come Thou Fount
[5] Tony Merida, Christ-Centered Exposition: Ephesians (Nashville, TN: Holman; 2014), p. 121.
[6] Ibid.

Living in Light of the Way

I want to begin our time together this morning by reading four different verses from the Bible followed by a story and then ask a question that I hope to answer in a way that is helpful. So here are the four different verses which are from four different books in the Bible, and from four different authors:
Blessed are you when people insult you and persecute you, and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of Me. Rejoice and be glad, for your reward in heaven is great; for in this same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you. (Matt. 5:1112)
It is through many tribulations that we must enter the kingdom of God. (Acts 14:22)
Indeed, all who want to live in a godly way in Christ Jesus will be persecuted. (2 Tim. 3:12)
Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery ordeal among you, which comes upon you for your testing, as though something strange were happening to you; (1 Pet. 4:12)
Jesus said of anyone who might be thinking about becoming a Christian: If anyone wants to come after Me, he must deny himself, take up his cross, and follow Me. For whoever wants to save his life will lose it; but whoever loses his life for My sake will find it (Matt. 16:2425). Some of you are hanging by a thread emotionally, perhaps spiritually, and maybe even physically and you are wondering: Is it worth it?
It is my hope that by the end of this sermon, you will be able to answer that question yourself.
Remember that Chasing After the World was a Dead End (vv. 17-19)
The point of verses 17-19 is not to point the proverbial finger at the gentiles as if to say: Yuck look at those gross Gentile sinners! The point is to remind the Ephesian Christians of what they were once, contrasted with who they are now. Within verse 17 is a command to, no longer walk just as the Gentiles also walk. Why? Because it makes no sense! What we read in this verse is not all that different than what Paul wrote in Romans 6:1-4,
What shall we say then? Are we to continue in sin so that grace may increase? Far from it! How shall we who died to sin still live in it? Or do you not know that all of us who have been baptized into Christ Jesus have been baptized into His death? Therefore we have been buried with Him through baptism into death, so that, just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, so we too may walk in newness of life. (Rom. 6:14)
The Bible never separates belief from action. If you believe something to be true, your behavior will be affected by that belief. What we believe in our minds will inevitably affect how we conduct our lives. Is this not the point that Jesus made in His sermon on the mount? Listen to what Jesus said: Enter through the narrow gate; for the gate is wide and the way is broad that leads to destruction, and there are many who enter through it. For the gate is narrow and the way is constricted that leads to life, and there are few who find it (Matt. 7:1314).
So, Paul commands his readers: you are to no longer walk just as the Gentiles also walk. He then explains what it was that compelled them to walk the way they walked: It was (1) the futility of their minds, (2) being darkened in their understanding, and (3) excluded from the life of God. Notice that the way the unbeliever thinks results in the way that unbeliever acts.
The word for futility literally means empty in the Greek. What this means is that the mind of a person without God is a person without a true understanding of what their purpose is, and how can a person have any real sense of purpose if they reject the Creator who created us to know Him? To be without purpose because you are without God, is to have a mind that is darkened; A person without purpose is a person who stumbles through life like the person who stumbles in a pitch-black room without any real sense of direction for how to get out but does an excellent job at running into wall after wall. The person excluded from the life of God is a person who chases after the idols of the world and the heart thinking it might satisfy when all that it does is prove to be empty.
According to Paul, people act the way they think, and what a person thinks is always connected to their heart. James Boice put it this way: People act as they think, and the reason they are constantly messing up is that they are vain in their thinking and darkened in their understanding as a consequence of being separated from God.[1]
The person who is spiritually dead does not only have a problem with a mind that does not know God, but also has a problem of the heart. If you are excluded from the life of God, then you are spiritually dead. If you are spiritually dead before God, then your heart is hard towards God to the point of stone. The Greek word used for hardness is pōrōsiswhich is also used for marble. To have a stone heart is to have a heart unable to feel or love God because it has grown calloused towards God and what matters to God. In our home in Colorado, we had a granite island. I had the bright idea to do a box jump onto the granite countertop, and against the wisdom and sage advice from my wife to not try it, I ignored her and did it anyway. When I jumped, my toes caught the edge of the granite countertop just enough so that my shins could feel the full force of my weight has I came down; needless to say, it hurt a lot.
The heart of the unbeliever is a heart that is unreceptive to the Word of God in the same way the granite countertop was unreceptive to my shins! Our hearts were not only hard towards God but calloused in the sense that instead of running towards God, we chased after anything but God, namely the idols of our hearts. According to verse 19, before Jesus redeemed us, we were like the Gentile pagans in Ephesus who gave, themselves up to indecent behavior for the practice of every kind of impurity with greediness.
But what was true of you Christian, is not true of you today! This is the point Paul is making, and he is encouraging you to not only celebrate your life in Christ, but to live in the reality of who you are in Jesus.
Chasing After Jesus is Life (vv. 20-24)
Ephesians 4:10 is the equivalent of Ephesians 2:4-5! And you were dead in your offenses and sins. But, God being rich in mercy, because of His great love with which He loved us, even when we were dead in our wrongdoings, made us alive together with Christ (2:1, 4-5). In the passage before us today, we whose minds were darkened, without purpose, and had marble like stone hearts have received Jesus Christ and we have never been the same since! We who were dead in our sins, are now alive in Jesus. We whose minds were darkened, have been enlightened by the light of the Gospel! We who were once without purpose because we did not know God, now have found our purpose in Christ!
How did this happen? You heard the truth of the gospel and at the same time God supernaturally and miraculously changed your heart. What you experienced is the thing we read about in 2 Corinthians 4:3-6,
And even if our gospel is veiled, it is veiled to those who are perishing, in whose case the god of this world has blinded the minds of the unbelieving so that they will not see the light of the gospel of the glory of Christ, who is the image of God. For we do not preach ourselves, but Christ Jesus as Lord, and ourselves as your bond-servants on account of Jesus. For God, who said, Light shall shine out of darkness, is the One who has shone in our hearts to give the Light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Christ. (2 Cor. 4:36)
Christian, you who were once dead in your sins, are now alive in Jesus! You who chased after the idols of your heart thinking that they would satisfy have been found by the One who said: If anyone is thirsty, let him come to Me and drink. The one who believes in Me, as the Scripture said, From his innermost being will flow rivers of living water (John 7:37-38); you have received Him because you heard Him and have been taught in Him (v. 21)!
There are three verbs used to describe how it is that you went from being dead in your sins to being alive with Christ in Ephesians 4:20-21. The first verb is learned which comes from the Greek word emathete; literally this verse should read: you learned Christ. So, how do you learn somebody? Well you dont do it by simply collecting some historic facts about that person! In Philippians we get an idea for how we have learned Christ and how we are learning Christ: that I may know Him and the power of His resurrection and the fellowship of His sufferings, being conformed to His death; if somehow I may attain to the resurrection from the dead (Phil. 3:10-11).
The second verb that is used to describe how we have gone from death to life is the word heard which comes from the Greek word ēkousate and it is translated in the NASB the way it should be: you have heard Him. How have you heard Christ? You heard Him through His word; you heard His voice through the good news that He lived the life you could not live and died a death for your sins that you deserved in your place, and on the third day, He conquered the grave through His resurrection. You heard His voice in the way Jesus Himself said you would: My sheep listen to My voice, and I know them, and they follow Me; and I give them eternal life, and they will never perish; and no one will snatch them out of the Fathers hand (John 10:27-28).
The third verb that is used to describe how we have gone from death to life is the word edidachthēte and is translated you have been taught in Him. You were not taught by Him, but in Him. James Boice wrote of this word that it most likely means that, Jesus is the atmosphere within which the teaching takes place. We might say that Jesus is the school, as well as the teacher and the subject of instruction.[2]
Whats the point? The point is that you who were once lost are now found, and even though you may have been a great sinner, Jesus is a great savior. No longer are you futile in your thinking. No longer are you chasing after idols in the dark. The life you once lived is now your former way of life according to Ephesians 4:22, so why would you even want to go back to your old self? Of course you do not want to go back to your old way of life because it is futile, it was purposeless, it was empty of God, it was a drinking from one toilet after the other only to discover that not only were you thirstier than before, but sick too!
But now now you have Jesus, and because you have Jesus you have life! You have been made alive by Jesus and He who is, the Way, and the Truth, and the Life (John 14:6) has given you purpose. And so now we find ourselves before Ephesians 4:22-24! In regard to your former way of life, you are to rid yourselves of the old self, which is being corrupted in accordance with the lusts of deceit, and that you are to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, which in the likeness of God has been created in righteousness and holiness of the truth. Listen, it is here in these verses that being made alive in Jesus intersects with the relationship we were created for.
Listen, there are some Christians from whom all you hear out of their mouths is how you must rid yourself of this and rid yourself of that for the purpose of looking and behaving a certain way, and much of it has to do with how you look and behave on the outside, which is no different than the legalism of the Pharisees Jesus spoke against. There are others from whom all you hear that comes out of their mouths is, Grace this and grace that it doesnt matter how you live because it is all grace. This is also known as antinomianism which is the belief that the Christians is free from having to obey Gods moral law. Neither legalism nor antinomianism is the point of these verses!
Conclusion
What is the point of Ephesians 4:22-24 then? The point is that we who were once dead in our sins, have experienced the power of God for salvation through the gospel of Jesus Christ (Rom. 1:16)! The point is that we were once dead and now we are alive in Jesus (2:1-5). The point is that we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them (2:10). The point is that while we were dead in our sins, the closest thing we could come to discovering our purpose and finding true satisfaction is by drinking from the toilet bowl of the world only to grow sicker! Now that we are alive in Christ, we have purpose in God, and have the ability to delight in the God who made us for Himself!
The point of Ephesians 4:22-24 is delight! The point is that we rid ourselves of the old self by chasing after the Jesus who is the light of the world (John 8:12). We rid ourselves of the old self by feasting on Jesus who is the bread of life (John 6:35). We rid ourselves of the old self by discovering in Him our true north as, the Way, and the Truth, and the Life (John 14:6). We rid ourselves of the old self and put on the new self by hungering and thirsting after the only One who can satisfy, for it is Jesus who said: Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be satisfied (Matt. 5:6).
The author of Life and our Redeemer said: If anyone wants to come after Me, he must deny himself, take up his cross, and follow Me. For whoever wants to save his life will lose it; but whoever loses his life for My sake will find it (Matt. 16:2425). These are the words that inspired Jim Elliot to pen his famous words: He is no fool who gives what he cannot keep to gain what he cannot lose. Little did he know that sometime later his life would become the catalyst to reach a violent unreached tribe, the Waodani tribe in South America, with the gospel; his death being the catalyst.
So, is it worth it? Yes, He is worth it! He is worth it because even if it seems that we have lost it all, in Jesus we have not lost a thing. When all is said and done, all we have is Christ!
[1] James Montgomery Boice, Ephesians: An Expositional Commentary (Grand Rapids, MI: Ministry Resources Library, 1988), 154.
[2] James Montgomery Boice, Ephesians: An Expositional Commentary (Grand Rapids, MI: Ministry Resources Library, 1988), 161.